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I go to high school. It seems like everyone thinks it is "in" to be gay and lesbian. I have been made to believe this. But you say it is wrong, and I was brought up in Sunday School and my parents are Christians. We have had discussions but my parents go along with TV, which is liberal. Which is the truth? The school, or what you say? If what you say is true, how should I act in school? P.S. I was fat but am getting very thin since I went low-carb. Karen Kellock said that if you are fat, you should not even have fruit or honey for three months, then when weight is lost you can add the fruit and honey. I am two months into diet and don't desire the sweets yet. I am looking really good and boys are FINALLY getting interested so I thank you both for the diet. It is fun, and I am NEVER hungry. Ruthie H. L.A.

Ruthie, I'm so happy for you that the diet is working and that you are slimming down. In school, I advise you to keep your opinions to yourself. Make up your own mind and "be your own person". If you go around disagreeing with the homo-crowd, you could be physically hurt, and worse. These are not rational people. They are morally in the wrong and instinctively know it, but can't admit it. That is why their first reaction to opposition is abuse, and sometimes violence. In this "QUESTIONS" page, not once has someone from the "other (liberal) side" effectively debated my opinions, conclusions, advice, quotes from God's Word, or anything other than filthy language and name-calling. That's all they have. Be careful.

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Thank you Karen for saving my life from anorexia psychosa, and the hospital. Because of you I am think and cute and strong and healthy. I have been on the doughless pizza, omelet and fruit and daily fasting trip for four years and I am a survivor. Can you tell people that ANOREXIA IS IN, but only if you're on the KK FFF diet? And now you have married, after saying how great celibate single life was for ten years............ What has happened? Well now I have a question for your husband. How do you like being married to a mature ANA? Are you on the FFF diet? Are you off the starches and sugars? Has it changed your life at all? I would really appreciate your comments on the diet, and the idea of the MATURE ANA, as none of these questions have been about this as yet. Ana-Belle San Carlos CA

Ana-Belle, I love being married to Karen (PERIOD). She is many things, one of which is, as you say, a mature ANA. She never ceases to amaze me with her energy and intellect. I am on the Walker Diet/doughless pizza/mixed nuts as snacks, and we have recently added some protein/chicken once in a while (no starches & sugars). It is working, of course, but it is too soon to be able to quote you some dramatic figures. More info will follow when I have more to report. Thanks for your interest.

I have been reading this page and was astonished that you didn't have more on anorexia and the recovery ANA. That was Karen Kellock's major focus for the entire decade and I was dismayed when she stopped. I believe that HEALTHY anorexia is the answer, not the "pro-ana" sites that were banned. I want her to return to discussion of anorexia beyond the "system of the anorexia" or "ana-logic". Karen thank you for being the sole voice on the internet that has NOT BEEN BANNED. That is because you are an older mature scholar, of other things, and they could not ban you. But Karen you STOPPED TALKING ABOUT IT, you are now a church etc. But can you tell us what you think now? Brother Graham anorexia is a GOOD thing, not a bad thing. In anorexia discussion groups they always ask about Karen Kellock and could you bring her back to the REAL ISSUE: LOW WEIGHT? I would thank you for this, and I would like to know your views. I am referring to this page http://stpdgurl01.mydeardiary.com/entry.html?de_key=186363

Dear Healthy, Karen just got overloaded and had to take a break. Her theories and the very healthy diet/s, that actually work to keep you thin without starvation and (ralphing), are still on the web-site. I'm losing weight and feeling no pain - it works. Anorexia is not my personal goal because I like to make and build things and I need the muscle bulk. Dieting and health issues are very important, but the rot developing in our school systems, and parents everywhere having their authority usurped by the "New Tolerance" idiots, are major problems that must be focused on by everyone. It has a much higher priority than dieting. We are not ignoring any issues yet but probably must in the near future. Hate mail from the homo's will be the first to go, because it is no mystery that they must oppose the point of view of the millions I represent.

Hello Brother Graham. I am so glad you have been added to the Karen Kellock website which has been my home for years. I am also congratulating you on your marriage to the wonderful lady. She has changed my diet and outlook and she is a winner. I want to know if you can please go on TV or U-Tube. I want to see you talk about these things. Thank you again, Kathy Nebraska

Kathy, Karen is sort of pressing me to do the "U-Tube" thing. I'm not too comfortable in the lime-light, but I will consider it. As for TV, I would have to have a sponsor of some sort. I couldn't afford it on my own. First, it would require one of the "movers & shakers" to show at least a small interest in anything I would have to say. My formal education is mostly in technical areas with twenty years overseas. My outlook on most things are more international than "Joe six-pack" in America. That is why it is easier for me to see the urgency of responding to, and preparing for, the coming Martial Law government in our country. God works in mysterious ways and I am happily looking forward to what He will do next.

Hello Brother Graham and thank you for being my brother. I delight in reading your kindly answers, even though you are a military man. I was taught in liberal schools to HATE ALL MILITARY. The liberal new age does NOT like the military and feels it should be disbanned, and now my views have changed. You love the Lord--what a contradiction, since the military kills people. I find this difference kind of fascinating. I would like you to explain this contradiction. Thank you for taking a stand against gays, for I have been taught to tolerate all these things--even things like transvestites. I am kind of confused and I would like your explanation. Richard J. Ohio

Thank you Richard, I am delighted to clear up these apparent contradictions for you. Our military (it's your military too), is both an instrument (tool) of defense for our country, and for implementing policies that are in the best interests of our country. It is commanded by our President (he's your President too, even if you disagree with him). Congress and the President, share the overall responsibilities for how to use our military; Where they should be deployed and what their mission should be. The military services do not make these decisions. They are all volunteer patriots who are serving their (your) country. They do what they are told and do it exceptionally well. They do not go around on their own looking for people to kill. If the military is "directed" to accomplish a mission (Iraq) that the liberals and/or the conservatives disagree with, Then they go at it and succeed because they are the best military force the world has ever seen They do not deserve your contempt or scorn for doing their jobs well. One of the Ten Commandments is "Thou shalt not Kill" (Exodus 20:13) That is the original English language translation of the year 1611. Further study by scholars all over the world have determined that the original Hebrew intended to say; "Thou shalt not murder". The Bible is full of stories that tell of God's people in many wars where lots of people got killed. When our military is "directed" to fight and win a war, of course people get killed (DUH). They do not go around and "MURDER" people. Another thing, military people train to be strong so that the very "threat" of their use by our country encourages other countries to remain peaceful. That saves lives for them and for us. Every military base has at least one chapel and Chaplains who are ordained Ministers and Priests. Military people are encouraged to attend the chapels and the ones who go (no coercion) are taught about God's love just like any civilian church. Don't you think it makes sense for the very ones who are sent into war to have the comfort of God's love and promises, to give them courage to do their very best for their country. Where is the contradiction? Richard, what you have been taught has its basis in hate and misinformation, not facts, logic, and common sense . You must gather the real facts for yourself, and not assume that what you have "always been told" is true or even remotely valid. Think for yourself.

I can't believe this kind of interactive website, with this music. It is very interesting. I am 78 years old and am learning all about my world through this. I had no idea that animal fat was actually good for you. Thanks for this information because I have always loved meat and do best on meat. I even enjoy the music though it is not my generation. Well now it has become a "church" site, online "without compromise" and I guess that means you go by the bible of God. I want to admit something I have never admitted before. I do not like my grandchildren--"I may love them, but don't have to like them" as the saying goes. They make me very sad when they come. There is complete chaos and they do not respect my wishes. Brother Graham I came from a different generation, from a Midwestern farm, and if we didn't respect the father of the house we were severely beaten and to tell the truth that is how things should be. There must be respect. Most homes to not have fathers, and the mother must work and that is why our society will soon be no more. This saddens me and I am glad I am leaving the earth soon. What can I do to better things before the Lord takes me home? Thanks again, Martha H. Mass

Martha, I've said before that we raise and love our children. We know and interact with our grandchildren whom we also love, but our great-grandchildren are strangers. 40+ years in this day and age of rapidly changing communication, transportation, and a host of other changes in technology have brought new meaning to the term "generation gap". As if that weren't difficult enough, the ongoing breakdown in the morals and ethics of our society is turning the children of our once great country into freaks and immoral aliens. A society that turns it's face away from God is a society that is failing. Martha, the only one who can help us is our Lord God. Pray for your family, our leaders, and our nation. God bless you.

I have been part of the lesbian community for five years. In the last year I have been beaten five times, twice enough to go to the hospital. I think there is an evil lure to homosexuality, where it is exciting and alluring at first. Then you become part of the community, where even at work one is continually getting calls from other lesbians. It is a "network" of sorts, and then at night you go to clubs and before you know it you are part of a community and there is no getting out. But there is violence. Women get violent. I am afraid of my partner. She has broken my stuff, spread rumors and recently made my life hell. I went home to my mothers last Spring, started to miss her and came back and the violence was much worse. She said if I left ever again (she was crying, which she always does--there's always a "hook"), she would kill me . Now I am very afraid but I am also very sexually attracted. I think what KK says is true--the pairing of orgasm with the stimulus is addicting. I don't know what to do. I truly am no longer attracted to men, at all. I had very relationships with men, and my father beat and molested me. I don't think I'll ever have a normal relationship with a man and do NOT want to be alone, I simply cannot be alone ever again and am firmly integrated into the lesbian community. Please tell me what to do. Lil H. I. San Francisco

Lil, read what I wrote in Q150. Check out the links. If you stay in that life, it doesn't look like you will live all that long. The threats and violence are real and the statistics support what you have personally lived through. Thank you for having the courage to at least tell others what they can expect if they choose, and remain, in your "community". The only advise I can give you is to "RUN" and don't come back. A new set of problems in a different place has to be better that the cards you're holding right now. You know my attitude about "gays & lesbians" and that can't change because God never changes. My personal feelings and opinions must remain true to my God's Word. I wish I could help all of you, but I can't.

I appreciate all you and Dr. Kellock are doing on this website. It is quite popular, obviously, and I heard from my neighbor that it was mentioned on TV and I can see why. Although these questions are unbelievable (but true), our society is going downhill and it must be discussed. I too am retired military (air force) and I too am disgusted. Gays are in the military now as are women and I can't get used to either, though women are competent I think it is ruining the POWER OF THE MILITARY which should be a united force. How can we fight when being eyed by homos? Anyway--that is for another question. As for myself I am having a problem with my kids. They are influenced by the "new tolerance" which you have described very well. Things I say THEY ATTACK as if I am a narrow-minded hateful person. I am NOT HATEFUL but I am a lover of the Lord and what He says I agree with. My kids will NOT listen to me and all rulership is gone from the home. My wife is influenced by feminism also, and refuses my rulership. I am no longer the leader of my home and I can't see how it is Christian if my kids are "tolerant" of complete perversion, and my wife no longer keeps perfect house. She acts like she is "superior" to mere housework. She spends too much time away from the home, thinking that is her right. When I come home, dinner is not on the table anymore. She leaves a note to put a TV dinner in the microwave. She leaves the kids a few bucks to go to Mac Donalds. She is "just too good" to be a "mere" housewife. I am Christian so don't believe in divorce, but it appears things have gotten so far out of hand there is no answers anymore. I realize that you have a Christian marriage (hope it lasts.) and that this may not be your area of expertise but I would surely appreciate your advice on this. I feel sunk. I feel lost love for my wife and disgust for my children. Larry P. H. Kansas

Larry, read my essay "The Problem with Sin". It describes an internal war all of us have to fight. It is ongoing until the day we die. You are seeing your wife losing that war in her life and your kids are losing that war because they can't see both sides of the conflict. To them, you are a minority of one and they are a majority of themselves, their mother, the school system and most of the jerks on the boob tube. I'm not criticizing you when I ask the question; Did you teach your children what God's Word says about homosexuality when they were small? In the book of Proverbs 22:6 it says "Teach a youth about the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it." In my life, I made a few departures but I always came back to the teachings of my childhood. Larry, in order for you to bring a semblance of Godly order to your home "NOW", you must become an absolute and total dictator in your house. At this late date, I don't think that's likely. I will say this though; You don't have to "TOLERATE" their "PREFERENCE" in your own home. Your home does not have to follow the "no rules" of their schools. In order to enforce this, don't make any threats that you are not prepared to follow through with. If they face you down and call you on any bluff, you will have lost any and all future credibility in your own home. Good Luck.

Hello Sir. Women's liberation is ruining marriages and making husbands into stupid wimps. I am one of them--I am terrified of my wife's anger. She is very insecure within herself--I can't see how feminism has helped women's self esteem at all. As if this is not bad enough, she has joined women's groups and they feed her anger. She demands I respect her and even help her with the housework but Brother Graham I WORK SOMETIMES 50 HOURS A WEEK. Karen has always said there is a "natural division of labor" and I think this is so true. Karen is one of the FEW FEMALE ANTI-FEMINIST VOICES on the web, she I would call a "pro-life feminist", in other words a Christian woman who OF COURSE wants everyone's liberation, not just women, but sees that women's greatest joy is in the home taking care of husband and family. Anyway, this is not the case and I need help here. My wife is a BITCH, A WITCH and she is not born that way but is being made that way. We started out conservative Christians but little by little she is becoming pro-gay, pro-bitch, and pro-male-basher. Help, please help and I will tell her to read this. (I won't give her what I wrote, she may get mad). John Elmer H. Oregon

John, please read my essay on "The problem with Women". It describes a godly woman and women in general. Read it with her and discuss it together. The woman in it described in Proverbs 31 has great authority in her role as a wife The husband concerns himself with other things that are beneficial to the family. There is no conflict. When a man insists on being the big dominant one in the family, the wife is usually unhappy and the man does not enjoy the quality of life that he "could" have. When the wife "is" the one who is clearly dominant in the family, everyone is unhappy. Things rarely work out OK. I'm not going into the psychology of it. That's just the way things usually work out. Read the essay and make up your minds. Your wife is angry because there is no separation of responsibilities in your marriage and any way she cuts it she feels she is somehow on the losing end of things. You must bring clarity between yourselves.

Hi Bros. I want to thank you for your kindness in answering these difficult questions. There is so much obvious hurt in this world right now. I am so shocked as I read these questions I can hardly believe it. You have lent a "strong arm" as Karen says on the home page, and that is aptly put--you are a military man and that IS what these lost kids should do: join up and grow up. This is a very wonderful addition to this website and I am very wonderfully glad for your marriage. I have unfortunate things in my family that have occurred. My husband got into pornography and then he went to prostitutes (called "message parlors") and then he had an affair with a woman half of my age. This broke my heart and I felt sick and left him for six months, despite his begging to maintain the marriage. He saw the error of his ways as he loved our homelife and our family and our history together.. He was terribly lost when I left. I chose to forgive him, and I came back. But still the memories remain and our sex life is cold as far as I am concerned. This is because I feel old and I know he's been with a young woman and I just can't forget it. AS a result I have started drinking in the hopes that I could warm up to him. I don't think drinking is bad, but as you can see from the evolution of our marriage as described above, one thing leads to another. Please advise and thank you again for your wonderful, endearing and Christian answers. Please remain here, and I pray that God brings you forward into the limelight where you belong. Susanna U. Louisiana

Susanna, I like to tell people what God's Word says concerning their situations and, in general, I try not to "preach" so I won't this time. I think you and your husband Should read the answer to Q81. I will not stick up for your husband because he violated your trust as well as your marriage vows however, when the Lord's Prayer says: "forgive us our tress passes as we forgive those who trespass against us" it is saying that if we expect God to forgive us our blunders in life, He expects us to forgive each other "sincerely". What I'm reading from you is that you haven't truly forgiven him and what you haven't forgiven him for, still stands between the two of you. I suggest that you sincerely forgive each other and restate your marriage vows to each other and really mean it. It is my belief that God will Bless your efforts to remain husband and wife in harmony in your home.

This is a bunch of shit. I am gay and it is a world movement that buddy is going to take over. It is going to be Utopia. Rome and Greece and Sparta prove it. All great societies were gay. This is shit and you can eat shit for all I care. R.H.

R.H., You have the right to express your own personal opinion. Don't you think that I have just as much right as you? The homo-community obviously does not respect my preference and my right to express that preference. Isn't "tolerance" supposed to be a two-way street?

It is nice to read someone who understands the terrible debauchery that is occurring all around us. It is nice also that you have been military and take a hard-nosed viewpoint, yet you are Christian. I really appreciate this. I am beginning to hate my own children. I try to love them, but the schools undercut my authority and they snub me for my "desire for neatness" or my "prudish ways". I don't like the sex occurring behind closed doors, I don't like the way they dress, I hate the tattoos, I don't like the obscene talking, I HATE HATE HATE the music, I hate the late carousing until morning hours, I hate the sleeping in until noon and I hate their messy rooms. You are giving me courage but I still have no power. You are the man of the hour so PLEASE give advice to us ordinary folk where things haven't reached "that" point yet, but are still miserable for someone who was brought up differently.

Dear "nice", a common problem between parents and their children is the inability to view the other with the proper perspective. Parents are nurturing and loving to their children and want them to be safe and happy. Children (especially older ones) are self-centered and capable of cruelty to their parents. Their love for their parents is too often dim compared to the brightness of their self-interest. This, of course does not include all parents and all children, but is too common where there is conflict in the home. Once again, there must be consequences to poor behavior. You, the adult, make the rules in your own home. If they don't follow your rules, then it's up to you to generate consequences that they find equally unacceptable. You do not have to show any "tolerance" in your own home. You hate the loud music? Find out which circuit breaker controls the power to their rooms and, after telling them to turn down the volume and they don't comply, flip off the circuit breaker and put a lock of the circuit breaker panel. Most of them are lockable. If they won't tone down their obscene talking tell them to go somewhere else to eat for a while and put a padlock on the fridge. They are being disrespectful to you and there must be consequences. This is a battle that you must win or else you are a captive and hostage in your own home. Forbid them to have friends over and if they do, "no closed and locked bedroom doors. You do not have to provide your own children with a "no tell motel" for their immoral behavior. They will not show you respect if you don't demand respect. You got in your present situation by them taking advantage of your good nature and love for them one tiny bit at a time and now you despise your own life. You must take back your own home and demand that everyone that lives there behave in a moral and civilized manner. If they won't accept that, they can find somewhere else to live. "GIVE THEM NO OTHER CHOICE."

I'm so sick of the "new age" and the "forced gaiety" of everyone. They all seem so "nice" but inside they are dead men's bones, a waste. It is all phony. The new age is hard to deal with because when you mention the bible people aren't "nice". But then when I go to a church they seem to be moving in the same direction. Please advice, Jerry

Jeny, people want it both ways. They want to do the good biblical things on Sunday morning, but during the week they want to "blend in" with the world. The result is either conflict or they both become one and the same. Church members put pressure on their pastor to modify their beliefs to suit "them". That is why there are so many churches that claim the Bible is OK for Salvation but when it comes to "social issues" the Bible is not relevant. Too many "church leaders" do not have the courage to do the right thing according to God's Word.

Hello Mr. Graham and congratulations on your marriage to Karen a marriage made in heaven apparently. I too love the Lord Jesus and I am glad Karen added the "church" to this huge site. It is interesting that you feel so threatened that it must remain virtual--are things really that bad? I don't disagree because in Canada it is now against the law to be wholly Christian--outspokenly Christian against gays--and you know more than I do about this. Well I am completely alone like Karen was, rather than date idiots and perverts. It is hard to find a good Christian man so I remain happily alone in my little abode and I feel joyous. I do all the things she said to do--arise early do yoga, clean house, eat FFF or supershakes, read bible and look off at mountain vistas awaiting insight. I am really growing because of these wonderful habits. I believe my soul mate will come when God wants him to. My question is this: I live in Canada so I cannot speak outright against homos or I will be imprisoned (apparently) so I am a little afraid. What should I do when the question arises--just be nice? I cannot even mention the bible. It is nice to read your answers. Katherine H, Quebec

Katherine, I would like to know how and where you got your information about what you can and cannot do. I would recommend that you go to your local police station (or equivalent) and discuss this with them. Surely asking questions about the law and it's application can't be against the law. Knowing your legal limits is mandatory info. To not know is not smart. Don't assume limitations.

Hello Graham. I too am a retired military (navy) and I congratulate you on your strong (no b-s) answers. We need that, the world needs that. My kids are also being savage. They too are "black and blue". Hey, we all got small tattoos like "mom" on our arms but not like this--head to foot B & B. Where is this all going to end? We all went to prostitutes (well, not all) but this present perversion is something else. We hid this kind of thing from our parents--of course it was on the sly. But now, no more. The parents have lost all authority because of the schools. WE are now "bigots" because we don't like homosexual invasions. I guess I don't have a question, I just ask you keep up the good work and let's hope you go on TV about it. John William H. New Orleans

John, I just posted several answers to e-mails that should be helpful to your family situation. There are solutions, but no easy ones. I don't know about the TV bit. I do not seek any limelight however, it would be nice to have a sponsor or two so I can afford to continue doing this. The "load" has been steadily increasing. I have put a "donation" button at the end of my "Secret Society" essay, but I can't ask for anything for this "Questions" column. Most of the "wisdom" here is from God's Word and not me. I know my limitations. Thanks.

I saw this link on TBN and I would like to know if you are going to go on TV with this. There is no one on TBN who mentions the awfulness of what is REALLY happening. Karen Kellock mentioned the "exchange of body fluids" in one of the articles here. No one talks like this on TBN and I think they should. They are entirely too "nice", but I don't believe they would let you on. How can you start broadcasting what is really happening? What do you look like? Are you on the diet mentioned on the other pages? What is this website really about--is it a church or science? K.H. New Mexico

K.H., I am getting out to the world just fine on the Internet. On average, the people to be found on the Internet are not the same group glued to the boob tube. As to what I look like, I believe myself to be rather average in looks but Karen says that I am beautiful. You can't believe that though, because she is biased and sees me through rose-colored glasses (must be love). You are right TBN probably wouldn't let me on because they too must bend to the loudest voices in public. So far, I am under no such constraints on the Internet. Yes I am on the Walker diet and it is working, although I was only a little bit overweight to begin with. Science is the business of facts, logic, reality, and truth. I do my best to not deviate from those things. Are we a "real" church? Are not churches supposed to proclaim God's Truth. For Christians, God's spirit dwells within us so it is important that we take care of our bodies. Extremes are not good whether it is Overweight, alcohol, drugs, or anything else that degrades our physical quality of life. That is why the Diets that Karen explains are so important. Almost daily I quote scriptures from God's Word to help people understand God's Will in their lives, with a sprinkling of secular advice based on common sense. This is the work that churches are supposed to do. We are a virtual church and thousands fill the pews every day. It is an awesome responsibility and I pray daily for God's help, which He freely gives. That help is available to you too, if you only ask Him.

Well Hello. I just found this website from a link on a TBN show, and I wish to thank you for putting all this on, even though it may be embarrassing. You know, many churches won't get so explicit and I think we really need it to see what is going on in MOST HOMES. It is true that young kids got the hormones raging, and if the schools tell them to go ahead and do it, and if the father's gone and mothers at work, of COURSE they're going to be having sex after school. Most church sites aren't going to talk about that, of course. But you have put all the questions on AS IS, apparently, and that takes courage. I'm not so happy though, because my 17 year old daughter is gay and I have told her she is NOT to have girls in her room when I am gone (or even when I am here, if you please.) and the other day she went against my wishes. Brother Graham she has been a nice girl up until now, and a very pretty one. Her "girl friend" is also very pretty, and i saw them kissing in the back yard and it made me sick. How, how, HOW do I nip this in the bud? Thanks so much. Catherine Y. NY

Catherine, I just posted Q150. You will see that if sweet reason doesn't work from someone who loves her, then maybe she can be scared into taking another look at her priorities and goals in life.

Ok, I'll write to you since everywhere else I get an argument. I saw the link and I'm glad someone answers questions. I am older and live in an apartment building. Next door is two men and I assume they are "gay". Well they have many many men coming and going out of the flat--all day and night long. I hear sounds muted by loud music. I think they are having orgies. I can't imagine it, but based on what I've read on this page I'm sure it is true. What can I do about this terrible problem? I cannot afford to move as I'd have to pay first and last months rent plus deposit so it's out of the question. S. H. Virginia

S.H., You have rights as a tenant. If the neighbors in the same building are too noisy (regardless of their activities), the landlord is obligated by law to force them to "keep it down". I personally don't like to involve law enforcement in any part of my life (I don't trust them), but you have a right to call the cops and get them to bang on your neighbors door. Remember, the "squeaky wheel" get the oil. Be a pest.

Thanks for your forthright answers. Oprah ought to be shot. She is influencing the whole world not just America, and she is a billionaire many times over. She has more influence than any president. And she puts up open marriage? This is truly beyond the pale. What are your thoughts on marriage, and the leadership role of men, and do you get any flack from the feminists if you do see the man as the head of the home, etc? Would you go on Oprah to say these things, would you argue with her so-called "expert psychologists" if asked to? We need a military man, and I hope McCaine gets in for that reason. Steven M. Ohio

Steven, My views on women are detailed in my essay "The Problem with Women" (click "on women"). No I would not go on the Oprah show because it would be going onto the "enemy's home turf" and she would have all the advantages. Everything she does is created to glorify and magnify "her". Satan has blessed her immensely. That's why she is so rich and can afford to support the continued attack against American families. Her tame psychologist supported her distorted point of view and said that (adultery) "is all good". I have my own Christian Psychologist, my wife, Dr. Karen Kellock who, with me, knows that God's Word does not tolerate (sleeping around) any kind of adultery.

This all sounds good but I doubt if you will have any influence in this world since the faggots and secret societies rule. I think there is an INTERNATIONAL FAMILY which pulls all the strings and it is IMMORAL. I really doubt if this will go very far except with Christians who are increasingly becoming the minority. Good luck Cynic from NYC

Dear Cynic, If you want to influence someone then go to Q118 send it around to people you care for. I don't think we can stop what's coming but we can warn people. Forewarned is forearmed.

Hello BG. My daughter is bulimic (a vomiter). We are so exasperated with her we'd like the evict her from the home. It is sickening to hear the retching sounds. Everything she eats she pukes. She is bone thin. Now it has become a terrible trap for her and she cannot stop--in fact even without trying her food comes up. We are thinking of having her committed to an anorexic facility where they pump food through a tube in the throat. We hate to get that drastic. This all started when she wanted to look like a model. She is 15. She says all the girls at school do it. Please advise. Linda H. and husband, Idaho

Linda, my brother had that same problem with his daughter when she was seventeen. He did put her in a hospital for the treatment and it worked out OK. Now she a sweet woman of 41 with a Masters Degree in Psychology. She is getting married next Saturday the 16th (Best wishes Theresa). Your daughter is in some danger of mental damage and/or death. At 15 she is still very much in her growing stage. When she denies her body proper nutrients she is endangering all of her bodily organs and functions. Karen developed her diet theories so anorexics wouldn't have to "purge" in order to stay thin. She basically had to do this in order to cure herself. Now she is 5' 4" and weighs 98lbs. At near 60, she looks really good. I hope this helps.

Hello Brother Graham. At last someone is speaking the truth about all this crap. My daughter and son are stuck in it. My daughter age 26 is a lesbian--a dirty filthy licking homosexual and it makes me sick. At first my neighbors and friends told me I must be "tolerant" and that I was being a "bigot" for being horrified. I lapsed into insensibility, drinking down my woes. She would come over once in a while with her "friend", who had tattoos and big muscular arms and talking like a truck driver. It made me sick to think my little girl is letting this vampish dike grope her. Then, my son age 18 wears his pants so low you can see his crack, and he wears his hat backwards, and looks like all the rest of them with his basketball jerseys. He says "you know what I'm sayin'?" all the time, rather than true language. I feel like my kids are two caricatures of people, or TV stereotypes. How do I get them to come back to reality? I feel ashamed of my own kids. Jeremy J. Kansas

Jeremy, Being ex-military, it is sometimes hard for me to not treat all problems like a target and "shoot them". I tend to take the hard line on many things. I understand that you are torn between two strong feelings; Love for your children and revulsion for the choices they have made in their lives. Your life is every bit as important and valuable as theirs are. The fact that they are much younger, as well as being your children, does not change that. Your first priority is to take care of yourself without becoming an alcoholic martyr because of your kids. In law, when you make a legal claim against someone, and they don't respond, the law assumes that your claim is valid. Silence, or no response from them is the same as admitting guilt. In essence the other party is condoning your legal point of view. You, as their father, are obligated to strongly speak out against these exceptionally stupid choices they have made. If you don't, you are condoning what they do and what they are. You must not be silent. You must respond. You might tell your daughter:

"The median age of death of lesbians is 45 (only 24% live past age 65). The median age of death of a married heterosexual woman is 79."

Your daughter has maybe 19 years of life left to her. Median means that half of all lesbians die sooner than 45 and half longer. Does she really want to depend on "LUCK"? I've said this before that the Bible says: "The wages of sin is death". The more grievous the sin the quicker you die (the statistics above prove this). God's Word clearly states that men with men and women with women is a perversion of what He intended. We were created male and female for the purpose of procreation. Of course, the "other side" will consider these words I have stated and quoted to be a hate crime. The statistics I quoted are true. What the Bible says is true (for many centuries). Wherein lies the crime? I don't hate homosexuals, I pity them because they are in the grasp of evil and most of them won't escape. They believe the lies of the "New Tolerance" and have fallen into a very evil trap.

As for your son, at age 18, he should start to look and act like an adult. The "you know what I'm sayin'" phrase comes from the black hip-hop morons you see on TV all the time. This is not a racial slur on my part, but a shot at the losers in the black and white communities that act and talk like morons. This is peculiar to American culture. In other countries, like England, that has a large minority population also, they act and speak like normal people. That's why they are fully integrated into their societies without all the racial problems we have in our country. Why your son wants to join the ranks of weirdo's is a mystery to me. Apparently he wants to be accepted by those who are going nowhere and becoming nobody. On a more practical note: Don't let him in the house until he dresses decently and takes his hat off when he is in the house. If he won't talk to you in a normal manner, our he goes until he remembers how humans talk to each other If you don't enforce your authority, there will be no standards in your home. If you don't raise your children, they will raise you to comply to their weird standards (which is no standards). You must be stronger than them. The guy that pays the bills calls the shots.

Hello BG. I have a son who is 18 and he is VERY VERY FAT. He is about 150 pounds overweight. He was a nice enough kid, with hobbies and this and that. He was in Boy Scouts too. I was proud of him. But when I got him a computer, he really changed fast. I caught him viewing gay porn. Now he is bringing boys home and they lock the door to his room. Yesterday he brought a big black boy in there, and I know they had sex. The sheets were all soiled afterwards. What can I do? Should I shut him out as you advised others, after being such a good boy? How do I get him back? Sad Sack, Illinois

Sad Sack, this is for everyone: The adults in any home that pays the rent or mortgage, are responsible for establishing what they "know" to be acceptable behavior. These are rules of conduct that all within the household must follow or arrange to stay somewhere else. Your sons and daughters will complain that you are really being evil to throw them out of the house. That is not true because they are throwing themselves out of the house. They have the choice of conforming to your set of ethics & standards, or leaving. If they refuse to conform to the rules, "they" are choosing to leave, even if you have to personally push them out of the door. It's "their" choice, not yours. You do not have to feel guilty if they choose to leave. Parents are being slowly pushed, little by little, into condoning something they know for sure is disgusting, unsafe, immoral, and absolutely horrible for the welfare of their children. Your children are using your love for them as a "guilt-trip" lever against you, the parents. They feel no remorse or feelings of conscience in abusing your love for them. The school systems are encouraging them in this by their policies. Back to you, Sad Sack - Karen's diet works just as good for kids/young people as well as older folks, and it clears up your thinking when you are healthier. Your son most likely thinks he couldn't attract a girl so he turned to the cop-out of homosexuality. It's a decision based on insecurity and feeling inferior. Get him on the diet and watch him lose weight: (This is from Karen-) High fat, high protein, much fruit (good carbs) but NO STARCH (bad carbs). Eating fat dissolves fat. Fat evokes GLUCAGONS (opposite of insulin) and gives you energy, burns fat, eliminates all excess water from the system, burns out all cholesterol from the system, nourishes the brain/heart/glands/skin, and most importantly SUPPRESSES APPETITE. Protein does the same BECAUSE it is usually combined with fat. There are only three macronutrients: fat, protein and carbohydrate. Since fat and protein go together, when people go "low fat" they eliminate protein as well as fat and substitute with starches which evokes INSULIN and lays on fat, retains excess water (waterlog effect: bloat), evokes appetite, and cues the liver to make it's own cholesterol. Thus, low-fat diets make a FAT NATION. (-thank you Karen). If you love your son, and you cook for him, now you know how to make him slimmer. In the mean time, forbid him to have any friends home if they are going to violate "your rules". If someone does come over anyway, his door stays open and "no hanky-panky". Your son does NOT know what is best for him and you must be strong and forceful enough to enforce the house rules. You do not have to tolerate such filth in your own home. If he chooses to leave if he won't comply, then it's on "his" head, not yours. Tough love is tough on everyone.

I was recently divorced and so I started dating. I met a man who seemed nice enough. We had sex, and he was a little rough but I thought I could educate him. Soon, he started getting kinky. He said he wanted "golden showers"--he wanted to urinate on me. Isn't this going a little too far? I'm too old to find someone else--can I cure him of this weird need? Susan P. Palm Springs

Susan, The path a man takes to come to you is the same path you will then travel together. You really need to get some background on this guy. He will not change for you, and he might be into porn. Find out and make your decision. You are never too old to avoid someone that might harm you or drag you down to his level of perversion. Be careful.

Hi BG. I read a question here about someone's mother acting like a G-D whore. I could believe it because mine is doing the same thing. What is happening to women in this country? Have they no more goodness, or self-respect, or holiness? A good woman is so hard to find--no wonder men are going after men. It is really disgusting. About myself: I am 26 and my mother is 52. She was divorced two years ago when I was out of the country on vacation. When I came back--I could not recognize her as she had plastic surgery done and got a whole new wardrobe. IT is NOT CUTE. She looks like a prostitute. She swears now, with "f" talk, and saying things like a gangster, and she even watches 'MTV' and repeats the things she says. She now says "IT'S ALL GOOD"--it's ok to be gay, to fornicate, even to adulterate. She says she just wants sex from a man, not having intimacy or emotional attachment--just sex ("like a man does"). She EVEN ASKED ME IF I KNEW OF A MALE WHORE for her. I felt like vomiting. How do I divorce my mother, or at least bring her back down to earth? James R. R. Wyoming

James, students of history know that what is being played out in our society now is nothing new. This has all happened before. Just before the fall of the Roman Empire, they were totally degenerate. Something similar happened in our country during the 1920's - lots of glamorized immoral conduct just before the Stock Market crash which started the depression. So here we are with your mother who has bought into the whole shebang. I take it she watches television a lot in order to get her instructions and cues on conduct that good people find repulsive. Plastic surgery must remain her decision and I don't fault her for that - It's her body. As for the rest of it, you are right. She is just mimicking people she wants to be like and admires (losers). The obvious conclusion is that she has the wrong kind of friends however, she is your mother and doesn't have to listen to your advice. The only thing I know to do that works sometimes is to avoid her. If you don't, then you're associating with a wrong kind of person - your mother. To continue, business as usual, is to condone and/or excuse her actions. There is no magic bullet to fix things here. Once again; tough love is tough on everyone.

I enjoy having coffee with your questions and answers. I thank you for being a religious conservative, and military also. If you say we're going into military law, I believe it because you were in criminal investigative too. You must know what you are talking about. You have a lot on homos on this page, but not too much on the true essence of marriage. I am sure you saw the Oprah Winfrey show on open marriage. The psychologist in the audience said it was a "wonderful new freeing trend in our country" that will "titillate" marriages to get even better. Well they had a couple on there who had a "day room" for the wife's affairs. Brother Graham there are hundreds of millions of viewers of the Oprah show. Is she not responsible for this tremendous breakdown of families now? Jenene I, Nebraska

Jenene, Karen watched it and told me all about it. All I can say is; SICK, SICK, SICK. Matthew 7: 15-18 - "Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thorn bushes, or figs from thistles? Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit." Oprah had a psychologist on her show who said "it was all good". I have a Christian Doctor of Psychology who just happens to be my wife, Karen, who says that "it's all bad". Considering the Bible scripture I just quoted, would you say that Oprah is a sheep or a wolf? She is making millions of dollars by "informing us" of what is going on and, bye the way, condoning and promoting conduct that goes against what God's Word tells us. Yes, Jenene, Oprah is responsible for her actions and she will get her just reward from our God. Romans 12:19 - "Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: 'It is mine to avenge; I will repay' says the Lord."

Brother Graham: I want to ask a question about "open marriage" which apparently is sweeping the country overnight. People, even though happily married with a home and a good job and kids, ELECT to date and even have sex with other people. I find this insane and it surely will mean they'll pay the piper at some later date. What are your thoughts on this ridiculous TREND which is happening overnight. Jimmy H. Tuscon

Hello Brother. I want to thank you for setting me straight on these things. It is somehow better than holy roller preaching against sin--you are mending fences as you talk, for both sides. I believe brother that we ALL have someone in our family who is in this kind of trouble, and Marshall law makes sense that it is right down the road. Well I have it in my family too. My wife of 30 years decided she was "bored" with our marriage, when I was so good to her, and she started going out to bars with her girlfriends. She is no spring chicken but started dressing in brazen ways, encouraged by others. She started having dates with a younger man. I don't know if they have had sex, and I am wild with unhappiness and jealousy and don't know what to do. I do NOT want to lose my marriage as I am not the type to start over with someone new. I want my home back so PLEASE brother Graham speak the truth some more. Ellis L. Baltimore

Ellis, "Holy roller preaching" is OK I guess, but I like to stick to facts and truth I can clearly demonstrate from God's Word and my personal experience. It is my experience that an "emotional roller coaster ride" in church doesn't always stick with you. Do you have children that might help to convince your wife that she is starting down a one-way road that can only lead to unhappiness. Children never want to see their parents separate. I, personally, do not like anything about divorce. Once I was forced to leave my home because my (then) wife kept making constant verbal attacks on me. I tried everything in the world to appease and smooth things over, but nothing worked. So I moved out and stayed in a friend's RV. Four days later, I saw my wife's car parked in the driveway of this same "friend" at 6 o'clock in the morning. After a few repeats of this, I drew up a private separation agreement and we both signed it. I agreed to pay her $1100.- a month support and was prepared to stay married, but alone, for the rest of my life. Evidently God had other plans for me because two months later I was served with divorce papers. She wanted to force me to pay her more money through the court system. This went on for another year and a half before the divorce was final. This was in California, a "no fault" state. The judge awarded her $260.- a month support and I was free to much later meet and marry my Karen, a blessing from God. Ellis, I know that things don't look too good for you now. I had been married a total of 46 years (my first wife died) when I met Karen, and my life is very sweet now. Let your wife read this e-mail and tell her that you are a man of integrity and will not tolerate her immoral behavior. If she continues on this path, you are at risk of catching a social disease like aids, syphilis, gonorrhea, and who knows what else. In the past, I have worked in Baltimore installing cell phones in cars before they became hand-held. I had friends that lived off of Liberty Road and I'm sure that things haven't changed all that much. Your wife is courting disaster, financially and health-wise. You just can't "let it slide". You offer your wife love and faithfulness in honorable marriage. If she thinks the "grass is greener" on the other side of the fence, she will learn that there is "no" grass, but a pit on the other side of that fence", and if she willingly jumps into that pit, you can't stop her. Save yourself.

Hello Brother Graham. Good answers. I could load you full of typical stories from the army in Iraq which would go way beyond these even. It all starts in the public school system, saying "anything goes". The whole torture thing in the prisons in Iraq started with the schools, saying "everything is relative--each to his own". It makes you sick. But now it's not just young soldiers that act that way--it's just about everyone under fifty. You have quite a job to do. I have started dating women seriously looking for a life mate. Believe me, they are dirty. I don't want to get involved. So I joined a church and the girls there were too churchy. Where is the line between? I want a girl with sheen. Billy H. New Hampshire

Billy, it's hard to be patient when you're on the underside of 30 but sometimes that's what it takes. I don't know your educational plans but college is a good place to meet girls/women who are smarter than most, and ambitious. I don't know if there are any Christian colleges in your area but that's worth looking into. Whoever you date, it would be interesting to see how they react when you ask them to go to church with you on a Sunday morning. Maybe you should ask for a little help? Proverbs 16:9 - "In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps." You plan to find a good woman to marry. Pray that our God successfully guides your steps in your search.

My husband of ten years was talking about open marriage BEFORE damn Oprah did a show on it. When we saw that show, that was it for him--he demanded I "open up" to it and said he'd even love me more if I had sex with someone else while he watched. He said there were some girls at work he wanted to date. I feel so sick, so sad and forlorned. Please advise. Julie W. Brandon OR

Julie, my heart goes out to you. In another e-mail response I described Oprah as one of the "wolves in sheep's clothing". What she is condoning and promoting is pure evil and all who fall for it will eventually bitterly regret their lapse of sanity. Our country was established by people who had a strong Godly moral code based on God's Word, the Bible. It has served us well for over 200+ years. And now, in their pretended wisdom, our so-called experts and educators are declaring that "anything goes." One of the choice pieces of wisdom I picked up while in the U. S. Air Force was: "IF IT WORKS, DON'T FIX IT". So now they are busily fixing the fundamental building block of society which is marriage and the family. The idiots would have caused a lot less damage if they had legalized polygamy instead of this marital nihilism. It worked in biblical times and it has a better chance of working than this marital suicide. Julie, your husband feels very strongly about this and can't wait to experiment. Assuming that you have normal self-esteem and personal pride, run from him, don't walk, RUN. Cut your losses now instead of him convincing you to "just try it". If you feel sick and sad now, imagine how you would feel after you dirtied yourself with him watching. I am so sorry, but that's how I see your situation. Please ask others you trust, not just a stranger like me, for advice. God does answer prayers, so ask for His help too.

Hi Bro. My wife is my BIG problem. When we were married she was petite and sweet and now she's as big as a van--especially her seat. hahah--no kidding, I can't believe it. All she does is eat. She loves starches--she refuses to give them up. Brother about two years ago I started on Karen's FFF diet and got slim and trim, tan and fit. I eat doughless pizza or chicken everyday and now I'm thinking of trying the Walker diet. Anyway, my wife doesn't care and she can't stop eating these things. She is so disgusting to me and I don't want sex with her--she looks like a monster to me. I am so sickened every time I see her, and she knows it--and it seems to make her eat more and more. Her sense of rejection by me makes her eat. Can you give me some advice of how to change my wife without causing a real rift we can never heal? Roger H. Montana

Roger, thanks for the boost. People need to hear success stories that Karen's diet really works. I'm on the Walker diet and I like it. Concerning your wife, you would think that sitting down and reasoning it out with her would do something. You are on the diet and have proved that it works very well. It could work just as well for her if she just tried. It has to occur to her that a trim, healthy man is also an attractive man to other women. It has also got to occur to her that the more she stuffs her face, the easier it would be for you to leave her for someone else more reasonably shaped. The fact that you want to salvage her body (and your marriage) to where you both would be a lot happier, says a lot for your integrity. I admire you for that. Most guys would have given up long ago. Obese women are more likely to have heart diseases and strokes as well as loss of brain tissue. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4032261.stm Take a look at this web-site Roger. If this doesn't scare a few pounds off of her then all is lost. She is risking her very life. Tell her to put aside her hurt feelings, grudges, and anything else and to let you help her to live a normal healthy life-span. She has no idea how bad she is hurting herself. If she still refuses, then get her to a doctor and try to see if she is affected by dementia brought on by obesity.

Hi Brother Graham. My husband of five years has started going out with his boyfriends to clubs. I think they may be going to strip clubs. When I walk into the room, they all stop talking about whatever they are talking about--it is very secretive. I am very jealous and feel these boyfriends are a severe threat to my marriage. We don't have sex as much as he has definitely cooled towards me. Brother Graham I am so scared I am losing my husband to debauchery. I can't forget how loving he was to me and I feel sick to my stomach everyday. I hate these friends and we have fights over it--that is making it much worse. I am becoming a bitch. Do you have any suggestions what to do? I have also checked his favorites list on his computer and he visits porn sites all the time. Julie H. San Diego

Julie, this fascination with porn is a nationwide sickness. What is really depressing is the number of Pastors and other clergymen that have been trapped into this garbage. To think that so many people don't believe that Satan exists and that the word "Evil" is an old-fashioned word for just "bad". Women under extreme stress can act "bitchy" at times but that doesn't make them "a bitch". You are a woman that still loves her husband and wants his love and respect in return. That is not unreasonable. Your problems with your husband have no easy solutions. Obviously you are willing to sit down and talk it out to find ways to get along. If he won't meet you half-way and compromise at all, I don't see a happy ending for your situation. If your husband's mother is reasonably available, maybe you could get her to mediate between you two. He would trust her and she would better appreciate your point of view. When couples aren't happy with each other, it affects the whole family, most especially the children. It's not wrong to ask for family help. I understand that in some families this is plainly not an option. You must decide. Do remember that God is always near and you can ask him for help anytime. I wish I could help you more.

Hello Mr. Graham and thanks. I have scanned this page and not found this same problem. My parents were divorced fifteen years ago and my mother has attempted dating but to no value. In the last two years she started to join the "gay women's" movement, lesbians. Now she is getting very involved with feminist types, dykes--and she has a girlfriend. Of course I don't know if they are having sex but I'm sure they are. What would you do if this happened to you? I feel I should tell my father about it. Frankie H., N Jersey

Frankie, telling your father won't change anything, maybe just the opposite. If you are living with her, move out. If not, I don't see that you can do anything to change her mind. Like all of us, she wants love and affection and couldn't find the right man to fulfill her needs. So, you and I know that her alternate choice of becoming a lezzy is a big mistake and will lead to eventual grief. That still doesn't change anything. You can minimize contact with her to show your disapproval and if you have children at home I wouldn't let her in the house to send the message that "if it's OK for Grandma, it's OK for us kids". It's not OK. Especially for kids. I think your only solution is to go your separate ways and lead your own life. Some problems just can't be solved.

BG congratulations on this new page. People seem to be really into it. I am a minister of the gospel of Jesus Christ. I have something to confess to you: I am into internet porn. AS a youngster I was very sheltered from such things and yet have a PASSIONATE sex instinct, very strong. When I got a computer I could not help myself and started to view it. I went INSANE as hormones were set off in my brain and a sense of urgency, mystery, beauty, desire took me over. My sense of the Lord diminished and the miracles in my life stopped. But I can't stop viewing it and, well, I also masturbate. I feel so ashamed of myself. I need help or I feel I am going to lose my profession or my ability to help other people. Dr. Milton S. Kansas

Milti-baby, I don't believe a word of it. A Doctor of anything wouldn't express themselves so unpolished and primitive. If you ever figure out what you did wrong, try again later and I might fall for it. Who knows?

I have a fiancé for three years and we planned to marry in the fall. But the culture as this page describes it is too much "in" him now. He is becoming more perverted sexually and I fear he is viewing internet porn. Please advise Kathy Y. New Hampshire

Kathy, see if you can find anyone who has completely recovered from the sexual trap that is any kind of pornography; internet or girly-bars. If there are such people, they are in the extreme minority. Please read my essay on "the problem with sin". It describes the war that takes place in all of us. Your fiancé is evidently losing that war and is not controlling his physical nature with his intellect. When you turn your body loose to do what it wants, it will inevitably want to do the wrong thing. If you stick with him, you will eventually not like yourself; that is, the person you are now wouldn't like the person you will become. Porno might temporarily add sexual excitement for a man, but it destroys love because it tears down mutual respect and any sense of dignity or self-worth. You're better off making this kind of decision now instead of after the marriage.

Hi Bro. I enjoy your answers. I wish they were a bit shorter because it's a lot to read and I am a little dumb. The reason I'm dumb: I'm married to a damn drunkard. All he wants to do is drink. After work he goes to the pub with the guys and when the money's all gone he comes home and sometimes he beats me. I love him but the love is diminishing after years of this crap. All of his brothers are drunks too, and his parents were. I do not drink because someone has to take care of the damage and business. I hate living with such a lush and louse. But he makes the money, as unbelievable as that seems (he is able to arise in the morning and slough off to work) and I am too old to start over again. Living with this mess has made me less than beautiful, to say the least. What can I do at this point? My kids hate him. Diana U. London UK

Diana, I know that I'm a bit long-winded in my explanations, but I think that people would rather have a little too much information than not enough. The narratives that you guys send me are painfully brief, at times. Not much to work with, so I have to make a few guesses. Changing an older person's behavior will always be difficult, but not impossible. You find that being beaten is unacceptable and, of course, you're right. You must find something that your husband finds equally unacceptable to be a consequence of you being beaten. This is not retaliation, it's "cause and effect". I would suggest that you leave him for a week (or at least a few days) when he beats you. Surely you can temporarily stay with your grown kids or parents or friend for a week once in a while. Let him come home to an empty house and he will have to decide whether or not he wants to beat you or have a nice, well kept home with a warm meal every night. As for the drinking, be loving when he drinks less and give him the cold-shoulder when he's soused. The message you must send is that nice things happen when he is nice and bad things happen when he is bad. It's up to you to create the "nice and the bad".

Hello BG. My problem is my sister. She tries to make it with any man I'm with. She has been jealous of me from the beginning. My parents favor her. But anything I have--she wants. She is prettier than me so can always get the guys. I don't dare bring any man home because she'll come on to them. I hate her. Jennefer L. Ohio

Jennefer, by your statement "bring any man home" I assume that you are a woman, and not a young girl. I also assume that when you were in school you got much better grades than your sister, and are much smarter. Your sister feels inadequate compared to you and feels she has to compete with you in the only way she can - with her looks. That way she feels she is somehow "winning" over you, making up for the fact that she can't beat you in the brains department. As for your parents, you most likely don't take after them because, after all, when you were born they misspelled your first name. How smart can they be? I give you the same advice I give to any young person over eighteen that is in a difficult situation at home: Join the Air Force which is stuffed full with bright, handsome, single young men and women who are independent and in control of their lives. Small fortunes are being spent on them teaching the skills that are needed in the military. Almost all of their training comes with college credits and they have night school college courses. Many young people do four years in the AF and get out with at least an Associates Degree and financing to finish out their four-year degree. Their entrance examinations are a bit stiff so I don't think your sister could follow you into the AF to keep bugging you. Think about it. It is a really good option for starting your life and maybe even a career.

I myself am in education, 32 years. I have seen the degradation of the whole education system since the "feminist" Nazis took over the NEA. They determine everything that gets taught. They are turning our kids into gangsters and whores and homos. It is absolutely unbelievable. We cannot talk about God. But we CAN play useless DVD movies for them, in place of geography and the four-R's. I have always thought this is going to bring total chaos to our society--what you are calling Marshal Law will be a MUST. I have been thinking this for years and I thank you for putting it into words and proofs. Principal, Frank U. New Jersey

Thank you Frank for stepping up with your support. I tend to put down teachers, counselors, and "Principals" because the majority of them appear to be marching in lock-step with the feme-nazi's. You are the best reminder that there are still many who work within the school system who despise the programs and policies you are forced to implement. Just watch carefully for the bullies that try to force the weaker ones to join and participate in something they don't want to do. I'm sure that many of the parents appreciate your attitude.

Congratulations on your marriage, Karen. Your website is certainly changing. I enjoy reading the email questions also. And to Brother Graham I would like to ask about body piercings. My son, who will NOT listen to a thing I say, is filled with tattoos which have become an addiction, and now he has rings in his nose, his tongue, his lip, both ears (many rings there), and now hanging off his face and also his belly button. He is now talking about getting his tongue sawed in half so he'll resemble a lizard. Mr. Graham I want to disown him and I don't want his reflection on me. How can I divorce my own son? Mr. J. Lampert, Santa Cruz

Mr. Lampert, this is what God's Word says about tattoos and body piercing: Leviticus 19:28 - "Do not cut your bodies for the dead or put tattoo marks on yourselves. I am the Lord." In the time of Moses there were many heathen races all about the people of Israel and tattooing, body piercing, and cutting were a part of their barbaric religious practices, much like the Maori culture in New Zealand in the past. God, in this scripture written by Moses, is telling His people that they are not to do anything that even resembles the heathen cultures around them. I think that is good advice for us today. I also have a son, whom I love very dearly, that is a walking billboard for tattoos. I don't seek him out for confrontations, I just avoid him for that and other reasons. Mr. Lampert, It's your house and you make the rules. If your son won't adhere to your standards, kick him out. That's a bit of tough love you should have applied a long time ago. My son was long gone from home when he started the freak show on his body. Good luck.

Brother Graham, I am 74 years young. I have seen our society go from friendly and community-conscious to obnoxious and ridiculous. People "seem" nice on the surface when in truth they are just afraid to state any convictions. Underneath they are mean and careless. I used to want to see my grandchildren but now I HATE seeing them for they are filled with chaos and ill manners. They just want to do games and watch TV. I am angry with my kids for not asserting discipline. But I need these people to take care of me later, do I not? I fear the day I will become dependent on such stupid people. Keep this anonymous. Claire E. Texas

Claire, on 30 July my mother died at 92 years old. It was also my birthday. She lived in her own apartment not too far from my brother right up to the last day. I really hope that you too can enjoy good health with somebody that loves you not too far away to help out when you need it. She loved our Lord God and was not afraid of that transition from this life to the next. I hope and pray that you feel the same. Each generation has their problems and yes, for the most part, this generation of the last thirty years is not as kind and polite as generations past. Their priorities exclude God and they are taught that adhering to any kind of standards is "intolerance" and therefore wrong. They will reap the rewards they deserve in the near future. Be glad that you and I have lived most of our lives in a happier time.

BG. My son just got out of prison and when I saw him I could not believe my eyes. He had a shaved head, with a big full beard. He looked like a GOON from white trashville. He had "prison tattoos" which were so immature and poorly done he looked like he was solid ink from head to foot--he was all black and blue. He had tattoos all over his forehead, Nazi swastikas. He says he is now part of the "white power" movement. Brother Graham I was just floored--to get all those tattoos off will cost us a fortune, but he refuses anyway. He looks so bad how can he ever get a job? I predict he'll be back in the slammer because he says "those are my brothers--they understand me". Then he said he wanted to get a "rap song" contract, as if he's very talented. He used to be talented, but now he's like a rapping baboon jumping up and down. What is wrong with our prison system? They are tearing down our society, not building it up. Georgia U. Mass.

Georgia, your son went into prison for whatever he did to get sent there. The man who came out of prison doesn't look like your son; doesn't act like your son, and has become a totally different person from the man you remember as your son. Mourn for him now, as you will never get the son you loved back. He made his choice and I certainly wouldn't let the creature that you describe back into my house. What is even a greater crime than what happened to your son is the school systems that are turning our children into promiscuous trash. It's going to get worse. I wish I had some comforting words for you but I don't.

What the hell can we do about this Marshal Law thing? I feel so manipulated and deceived by our own government. Steve Richards Long Beach

Steve, it is my belief that this has gone far beyond any last minute "saves". The only thing to do is to try and prepare to survive. Also, do your own research on the subjects that I have brought to your attention. Don't depend on just me for information. I am not the first to discover a lot of these things, but I probably am the first to tie in the results of the Infrared telescope launched in 1983. Al Gore more or less confirmed my findings.

I am so pissed off at the school system. They give "sex" classes and include homosexual sex. I complained to the counselor and to the principal. They said I was a bigot and that they will not discriminate against gays in this way. They said I am entirely unfair and want my child to remain uneducated. I could NOT believe my ears. Who can I complain to now? I cannot afford religious education nor homeschooling as I have to work. Lucy U. Calif.

Lucy, this is just part of the plan to tear down the fabric of our society into chaos so that it can be reformed into something more useful and obedient to those who will rule if, and when, we come out of Martial Law in the future. Any other explanation would just prove that those controlling our school systems are insane. Homosexuality, promiscuity, and forced acceptance of this will destroy the basic building block of all societies, which is the family. Parents are no longer "the" authority in their homes. People who don't love these children have replaced the authority of parents. It's going to get worse and the only one you can truly turn to in these times is our God. (Read the new essay on "Secret Societies.)

My sister is a lesbian. Brother Graham I accepted her for this, as I was told to do in schools. My parents, though sickened and shocked at first, joined GAY PARENTS ANONYMOUS or something like that, and learned to "accept and love" their lesbian daughter. WE all thought we were being "tolerant" and that it was just her inborn "preference". Well to say the least you have unsettled and disturbed our stable family with this information. I confronted my parents regarding their stupid group of filth-acceptance. I am REALLY pissed about this. We have been sold a bill of goods. Why isn't the government talking about these insane things? Do they all know it? ARe they ALL holding us hostage to this crazy secret? Merilinda j. H.

Merilinda, there is a Merilinda from Boise who also wrote to me. People tend to believe what is told to them by authority figures. In your case it is school teachers and counselors, and of course the other students just repeat what they are told is true. So what is "true"? Truth can only be proved by facts and reality. When you observe the facts and realities in your life you can then write down certain conclusions. These conclusions you call standards. Standards of behavior, ethics and morality. Certain standards have worked very well for many hundreds of years and they come from God's Word, the Bible. They are the foundation of our Constitution, and most of our laws. They have been reliable and beneficial for the people of our country. Now, in the last few decades, the liberal feminist movement has gained control of our education system from the federal level down to kindergarten and their grand experiment began. Instead of what has successfully worked well for many, many years we have all of our previous standards trashed and the only thing filling the remaining void is the "New Tolerance" and "Preference". Everything is allowed, everything goes, the only sin is "intolerance". If you carry this idea out to it's logical conclusion marriage is doomed as a viable institution. Raising children to parental standards has been replaced with "No Standards" of the New Tolerance movement. Merilinda, look up the word NIHILISM in the dictionary. That word applies to all of the social disorder and decline that must lead to Martial Law. Merilinda, I don't envy your youth. Your generation is going to have it worse than the people who lived through the depression of the 1930's. Do your absolute best in school and try to excel in everything. Your education and natural talents could be the only thing you have in the future to lead you to make good decisions and survive. Life as "business as usual" is almost over. I'm sure that your parents were trying to do what was best, regarding your sister, but they were wrong to compromise their standards. Truth is always a better choice than being part of the "Femenazi experiment. Merilinda I know this is all a little bit much for you to understand (or maybe not), but talk this over with your parents and rely on their input. They love you and your sister and need to work this out. They have some hard decisions to make and they need your full support. My prayers are with you.

Hello the Grahams. Wow. I agree with you about marshal law coming, due to the new tolerance. I am so glad someone is FINALLY talking about this. IT is becoming totally ridiculous all the crap taught in the schools. New prisons being built every day. God bless your efforts. Karen you are a beautiful soul who has helped me immensely over hte last ten years and you deserve happiness. I know what you've been through with a very unhappy childhood and family life. God bless you Brother Graham for merging with this dear sister. And may you both make headway on this terrible, awful problem. Help her, brother, please. What she speaks is TRUTH---and the world has shown nothing but hatred but we love her dearly. Please keep writing the TRUTH. Rev. Harvey Markin, Tennesee

Pastor Harvey, I'm glad you introduced yourself to me. I know that Karen has a lot of internet acquaintances and some friends that she recognizes immediately. You are one of those friends that have given her support and encouragement over the years and I claim you as my friend too. Karen and I are one in all things. You and yours are one with us as part of the Bride of Christ and as such must work together to do the will of our God. Our responsibilities are daunting at times but we dare not do less than our very best to further the will and purposes of our God. Many of my e-mail responses I pray over individually before I start an answer. The problems I read about and the heartbreak that too many people are facing makes me feel so inadequate at times that I am compelled to place them in God's capable hands. God does answer prayers and the answers come clear to me and I write them down. So if you like and agree with what I write to help and advise these many people, the praise belongs to God and God alone. I personally am honored that our Lord God can use my talents in this way. I am confident that God uses your talents to do His will to good effect. 1st. Corinthians 12:4-7 - "Now there are different gifts, but the same spirit. There are different ministries, but the same Lord. And there are different activities, but the same God is active in everyone and everything. A manifestation of the Spirit is given to each person to produce what is beneficial:" God bless and keep you in His will.

Hello Glory Church. Things are getting so bad I just know you're in the forefront. Please speak louder about these things. Please do something, please. Marlan Journes, SFrancisco

Marlan, print out or forward e-mail #118 to anyone and everyone you can think of that might spread the word that these threats are real and coming right at us. Most of the evidence to prove these things are right in our faces. It's time for action and less "BS".

I want to thank you for the incredible discoveries of Karen Kellock, esp the Walker Diet combo with the superfoods. Usually people take them as supplements but this is a great way to substitute all the fixing, buying, and DIGESTING of fake-foods, even fruit is fake now. This is just another genius insight and discovery of the great KK. Karen you have helped me ENORMOUSLY through the years, ever since I purchased my first little dipper warmer for doughless pizza and I have since bought them as presents for all my friends and family. My fat sister has lost 80 pounds because of your great no-hunger theory. And now Brother Graham you are adding a NEW TWIST, indeed. Thanks again. I will put you as my homepage and tell everyone. WHAT SHOULD I BE DOING TO PREPARE FOR DISASTER, WHAT SHOULD I BE SAYING. Ruthie H. Virginia

Ruthie, Karen and I have talked this over at length. What to do? To store food is obvious, but what food and what about storage space? We decided to start buying a lot of the Walker diet canisters. They will keep for years if unopened and provide everything our bodies need. In addition we are stocking "Gogi berries" and "Chia seed". These are "super foods" according to Karen. I have personally had experience with Chia seed and it is great for adding energy and stamina. There is also Macca powder and Cacao, which stores good but it's more expensive. In addition you need protein. I recommend any kind of canned fish and canned cubed beef form Brazil (Hereford Cubed Beef w/broth). Also, canned Spaghetti sauce, Chili, mushrooms, and the list goes on. If you're going to wind up feeding others from your stock. then stock up on carbohydrates: pasta, powdered mashed potatoes, dried beans of any kind, etc (We don't eat any of these carb. things at all but won't mind feeding it to others who believe it's "real" food - Yuck). Look and see if there are any "expiration dates" on anything and buy accordingly. If you can't store it for over a year, don't get it. As to what you should be saying just point people to this web-site and let them decide for themselves what to do. Print out #118 and post it on your office bulletin board. You will see two reactions: Instant disbelief and scoffing or a dawning wonderment because they personally know of some of the symptoms of the coming Martial law.

SO GREAT--PURITANISM IS HOW WE BEGAN. If we don't realize how depraved man is, we come up with things like TOLERANCE and we fall into hell and you're right it's happening overnight. We must return to PURITANISM, how our country began. But entire generations--three in total--have been told in school that Puritanism was a BAD THING, thinking man is basically evil. But how wrong this is--if you don't realize the depravity of man, thinking he's "good", this is the result. Thank you Brother Graham and keep up the good work. David L. Kansas

David, Puritan ideals make good goals for individuals and our country but too much water has flowed under the proverbial bridge to ever believe that we have a chance of regaining any of those lost ideals. Personally, I would like to be able to return us to being a Republic (remember the Pledge of Allegiance -"and to the Republic") instead of this socialist Democracy that we have now. A Republic is "Rule by Law" whereas a Democracy is "Mob Rule". Rule by law is fair to all, including those who inforceand administer the law. The Mob/majority can decide things that are harmful to individuals and the country, like the "New Tolerance".

Hello BG. I read your treatise this morning, as every morning when I arise I immediately turn KKglorychurch on as my homepage. The music gets better and this is getting more fascinating. I can see where your background is really coming through. Investigative criminal, huh? Then I turned on the tube and I saw it in a new light--yes things are getting BIZARRE, REALLY BIZARRE. How long do you think we have until it all hits the fan? What should we be doing to get ready other than storing food? I will check this page every day and thanks again and THANK YOU FOR THE MUSIC BECAUSE IT MAKES IT SO EXCITING ALL DAY LONG. I can't thank you enough for this whole site and I'm introducing it all around. Steven John H. Jr. Washington DC

Steven, my sources indicate that it could happen as early as October of this year to April of next year. Personally, I don't think that our opponents on the other side of the law know themselves. The event that will trigger their action will be the result of a natural or man-made disaster. They know that the public must be made to believe that Martial Law is "the only" response that can successfully cope with the disaster. In the next few years the frequency, and magnitude of earthquakes will increase dramatically. Weather disasters will increase, and of course they could help it along if the Muslim crazies happen to slip a nuke across our borders. A 5.4 'quake hit Los Angeles last Tuesday and they are "predicting" a much larger one to follow. Coincidence? I doubt it. In his speech on 17 July, Al Gore, speaking with insiders knowledge, predicted that there is a 75% chance the polar icecap will be completely melted during the summer within five years. He knows of this approaching planet and speaks with confidence. We'll see what happens. I'm hoping we have at least another year to prepare. Spend your time and money wisely.

I HAVE NOT HEARD THIS ANYWHERE BUT HERE. HOW CAN IT BE TRUE. WHERE DID YOU GET THIS SCOOP? HOW CAN WE TELL THE WORLD AND WOULD THEY EVEN CARE? WHO DO I TELL, HOW DO I TELL, HELL. Obaca and McCain aren't even up the right tree. Ralph J.

Ralph, try a web-search about the "Infrared Telescope" launched in 1983 and any results from their skysearch. As far as the "New Tolerance" is concerned, you have been reading almost daily e-mails here about the school horrors our children have to put up with. That police departments have been training to cope with future food riots, was in the news fairly often. That our country has been divided up into twelve administrative zones for future operations has not been a big secret. That Homeland Security has made a detailed "contingency plan" just in case Martial Law is necessary is a logical precaution for this huge agency. The only difference is that they know that it will be implemented. It is common knowledge that weather disasters and earthquakes are getting worse each year. China was plastered big time with 'quakes during the last year. Tsunami's in the last few years are on the increase. Is there any guess-work here on my part? The key to putting all of this together was the discovery of the results of the 1983 Infrared telescope skysearch, the real cause of global warming. The outer planets were affected first then slowly the inner planets, like earth. Looking at all the other things going on, especially the governments attempt to cover this information up, I connected the dots and clearly saw that preparation for Martial Law has been going on for a long time and that Halliburton building one prison after the next all makes sense. I have not invented any of this. It is not science fiction. It is a very sad story of betrayal and the end of a great society. I pity our poor children. The world they will inherit will not be near as good as the one we had during the last century. We had some real bad times, but we were at least a free nation.

WHAT? IS THIS TRUE? I'm referring to 118. I can see where the new tolerance would lead to marshall law. I am amazed at the complacency of people at the downright degradation of our society. It is going to fall like the domino effect. Look at the gangs, how they've taken over everything. Look at the terrible things happening--a beheading on a bus? Every single day things get worse. I expect things to explode any minute and you're right--they'll only care about football and beer. They'll wine and dine as usual. The homos will be influencing as usual. Brother Graham you are a lonely voice in the desert--and you're speaking to the whole crazy world and I pray to God someone starts to listen. How can we incorporate this into the crazy campaign? Does it really make any damn difference who gets elected? What are your thoughts on this. Richard S. sitting in a coffee shop, disbelieving what's happening.

Richard, I would love for all of this to be just a figment of my imagination. I would love to know that all of our school children go to school with happy anticipation instead of dread, being persecuted for not believing the lie of the "New Tolerance". I would love it if everybody acknowledged that God created all of us for his purposes, which includes the covenant of marriage and wholesome procreation instead of the popular perversion of that, which is homosexuality and millions of kids born out of wedlock, and millions of others killed in the womb. I could go on and on, but you get the point. As for the upcoming election, I can see that if McCain is elected, he could very well be a problem for those who have been planning for the take-over of our country through Martial Law. I believe that he is one of the very few patriots still in politics. I don't agree with him on some issues (don't ask), but I believe his heart is in the right place and has the best interests of our country as his goal. If elected, he could very well be fooled into declaring Martial Law, if the coming disasters are bad enough, but when he tries to end it, he will probably die "of natural causes" of course. On the other hand, "they" might not want to risk him getting elected at all. In which case his tragic premature death would be so unfortunate, but convenient for some. "They" did it to JFK and "they" can do it again. Obama, on the other hand, was clearly selected for the job by (whoever). He falls far short on political experience and is basically just another lawyer in politics. He will be more "biddable" (controllable) than the other contender for President. That is why he is the ideal candidate for the liberal left. Either way, assassination as an option is always on the table because we are entering the most crucial period of time since the Civil War. The "Moguls" behind the scenes have been preparing for this for decades and they are not going to let this big prize (the United States) slip through their fingers. They will do what they must to gain control of our country. Watch carefully who is picked for Vice President for both parties, and also the next Speaker of the House. They will most likely be very rich and part of the "in-crowd". They will possibly be the actual ones selected to run the country under Martial Law.

MUSIC IS GREATEST NOW. Please keep Sinatra out of it. We want the chill-out downtempo lounge jazz like this--this is the greatest you've ever had. It somehow in a peculiar way contradicts the incredible information you have here. It does something to the head this wonderful contradiction. YOu guys are WONDERFUL and this is a genius idea. I am telling all my friends to tune in. Brother Graham I appreciate your manly stance on those filthy homos. You are the strong voice we have lacked in the land. They are dirty filthy NOT sophisticated and clean. I really like the fact that a military man is speaking like this--because once they let gays in the military I was really forlorned. When you think of how horny men can get, how can they fight a war with that harrassment? It is sickening. I hope the powers that be pick up on this--I expect great things for you both. Ruth Ann J. Nebraska

Ruth Ann, Thanks for your kind words because I really appreciate being appreciated (does that make sense?). I must also put in a good word for the force behind us; Our God sees us through the good times and the bad times. This coming time will be no different. He will be there and we will survive the times to come.

Hi Bro. You're my daily coffee. Hey--I read where homos are taking over everything in education, government, lobbying, police, military--EVERYTHING. Will they be part of this implosion-explosion about to occur? Thanks for everything and I love the HOTMIX MUSICA. Sally R.

Sally, the "implosion/explosion" you are referring to will be a time of great civil disruption and if the homosexual group is seen to have been the main reason for what will be happening, then they are in for a hard time. Not the ones in control, but all of them out on the street and accessible for some pay-back time. Vigilante justice will not be uncommon. Crime will be very common.

There's a lot of good information on this HUGE site, and I LOVE LOVE LOVE the music. Where did you ever find this vibrant exciting sound? I have never heard it it is not part of "popular" culture but it makes this site really appealing. What is particularly interesting is that it sounds like "hip" music but then in the church site it's quite a shock to see you are Puritans. I really like the idea of returning to the original thoughts that shaped our constitution. This is great. You know, unless one reads this, he is likely to think business is going on as usual, everything is fine--but on closer observation everything is NOT fine and we're in deep trouble. Do you really think it will cause martial law? If people are really acting this way, as the questions reveal, it won't be long until everyone is in prison. And the government is really part of this whole scene? Please explain. Roger H. San Bernardino

To the Real Roger of Berdoo, yes things are definitely heating up. Here are the facts that confirms the diabolical plot to end the greatest country in the world since King Solomon's time: 1. It started with the Congress in session when Abraham Lincoln was assassinated. The war ended in 1865 and amnesty was granted to all but the so-called ring-leaders of the civil war. Two years later the Congress declared a new war against the South. That war has lasted until this day. The actions they took against the South still applies to all of America to this day. The judicial branch of government was placed under the executive, the President, instead of the Supreme Court, and many other changes were made that still exist today. They basically created new ways to get around our Constitution and they are still in effect. 2. Secret Societies are as old as America itself. Their goals could only be guessed until recently. They are strictly ruled by men only; rich powerful men (gay?). One of our better presidents recognized their danger to our society and publicly proclaimed that he was going to take action to expose them and their goals that were not in the best interests for our country. Not too long after that he was assassinated. That was JFK . 3. Starting in 1912, these secret societies started to take over the American banking system. They succeeded superbly. Our dollar is now printing press money with no real backing like gold and silver. Our privately owned monopoly money is on its way down in value and has a long way to go. 4. Over the last couple of decades it has been government policy to allow the influx of 11 to 12 million Mexicans into our country. Remember the biblical account of the "tower of Babel" where all of a sudden everyone spoke a different language. It brought total dissolution to the culture and scattered the population. "United we stand, Divided we fall". We are purposefully being divided as a nation. First with the black population; In their drive for "integration" the liberals have achieved cultural segregation and the total dissolution of black families into generations of "welfare moms". 70% of black families don't have a man in the house. Now it is an attack on our language. We have millions of people that don't speak English. The tower of Babel is on the way again. 5. There really is a planetary body the size of Jupiter that is most likely going to come inside the orbits of our outer planets. This is the real reason for global warming and Al Gore knows this and is taking advantage of it for political purposes when the world should be preparing for what is going to happen; More natural disasters, huge earthquakes, great human suffering and devastation, and the emergence of all the human predators that take advantage of situations like this, like the secret societies. 6. When you are determined to tear down a culture so you can remold it into something more controllable, the most fundamental building block of society is the family. So homosexuality is promoted and glamorized, and you get control of the power that controls the school systems, then you encourage promiscuity and preach "Tolerance" and "preference" which effectively undermines parental authority. The ethics and morals that parents teach their children are nullified because the parents find themselves in the minority within their children's lives. The children think their parents are out of sync with the reality of society in school and dismiss their teaching, especially Christian views. 7. Meanwhile the Muslim crazies are plotting and planning to blow up at least one of our cities in their "holy war" against the main corrupt society which is us. The problem is; We are so busy making their claims against us true. Muslims are very family oriented and true to their religion. They see our acceptance of homosexuality as proof of the depravity of our culture and they firmly believe that it (we) should be wiped off the face of the earth. Considering the constant attacks our school children have to face with this "New Tolerance" garbage, can we truly say that the Muslims are wrong? Normal, God fearing people in our country have become the small minority and have totally lost control of our society, and what is replacing it can only lead to anarchy and "Martial Law". That has been the plan of the "secret societies" all along. 8. With foreknowledge of the increasing natural disasters that will peak in about five years, the government has been busily preparing for the eventual military take-over of our country. In large cities, police departments are conducting exercises they are told are for future "food riots". They have been conducting raids for years combining just a few members of different departments together. No warrants, no affidavit of complaint, no nothing but brute force and guns. Any complaints from the victims are met with universal indifference from all departments. Even if just one or two officers involved in these raids realize that what they are doing is fundamentally illegal, they are in the minority with the herd of thugs and keep their mouths shut. The twelve regional headquarters have been built, the three hundred or so smaller military bases should be finished or close to completion, alliances with other countries to provide additional troops if necessary have been finalized, the best of our military have been successfully diverted to bases all over the world. Homeland Security continues to be built up in manpower and training and should easily overcome any local opposition to Martial Law, even if it's a military base with weapons. The preparation and planning for this has been meticulous and thorough and will succeed.

Meanwhile, football season is coming up and millions of the herd will be glued to the boob-tube WHILE THE END OF OUR CULTURE IS FAST APPROACHING. Of course, that is according to the plan. Success is assured if the population is taken by total surprise. So. Roger and all you Internet fans, print this e-mail out or forward it to your local radio station, TV station, politicians, pastors, etc. and ask them to prove all of this to be wrong. We would all love to know that this is not going to happen.

Brother and Chaplain to the KK Glory Church.

the only reason people are going "gay" is because they think it is "in", sophisticated, intellectual. Gays are wealthy and they live in nice homes and they have antiques and they act like they are far superior to other people. It is not because they are "homo" or "born gay". Even my own sister is now having sex with women in the feminist movement. How do we differentiate between the truly gay, and those who are inclined to homo-born that way? I don't get it. K

Brother Graham, have you read the page by kk "men sex men"? It says these dirty old fat men are NOT GAY. They are not born homo. They are just having a little "fun". Why do you say this filthy man is gay? They are nothing but immoral brutes, stupid idiot ugly ducklings. Answer is the same as elsewhere--they're "gay" I say

I am taking the walker diet with superfoods. The supershakes. It is true I'm never hungry and I am far better looking not eating. I thank you for this information. I love the music and have it on all day. By the way, I know of no church in my area that is not into gays. They all marry them. Does this mean I have to be alone without a church? How do I join your church? Maryanne J.

MaryAnne, It would not be appropriate for me to recommend a specific denominational church for you to attend because I have met many Christian brothers and sisters in most of them, even the ones who "officially" approve of gays. Privately many thousands of denominational members do not approve of the decisions of their church leaders. But, because they were "brought up" in a certain church, they feel it to be wrong to change. This is a "gut-level" feeling they have, even though they might be happier in another church. Karen and I go to a local Lutheran church that is anti-gay but I know there are others that are pro-gay. There are many independent evangelical churches as well as most Baptist and Calvery Chapel churches that do not compromise on the homosexual issue. Pray that God will lead you to the one that is right for you. I am so glad that you are making an effort to find a place of worship that is right for you.

My parents got divorced about two years ago. I heard from their arguments it was due to sexual incompatibility--he wanted more and she didn't. Hate to shock you, but it's no worse than anything else i have seen on this page. Anyway, now he is having sex with men. I don't believe he is gay. Like you said about the "walks like a duck", I think men are just having sex as a form of entertainment, but they are not necessarily "gay". It's like men in prisons or in war--they just relieve each other, that's all, due to lack of morals but not because they are truly homosexual. That is the one thing I disagree with on your page this morning. I have been reading the page each morning and I live in NYC and I show it to others during our coffee in the morning. People seem like they don't care about anything. Anyway, I saw my father out with men at clubs at night. He has now grown a beard and the men he is with seem very very weird. He seems lovey-dovey and I hate him for it. He just wants sex, that's what my mom says. How do you think I feel, having an immoral father like this? I would like your advice on this problem. Steve J. New Jersey

Steve, men who are not homosexuals will invariably have a feeling of revulsion at just the idea of "themselves" having sex with another man. Any abnormal act or behavior will repel a straight person. You are on one side of the line or the other. These people you describe that are "sitting on the fence" in between straight and homo. don't exist because the fence doesn't exist. It's a line and you're on one side of it or the other side. Homosexual activity is practiced by homosexuals. I know you love your father and would like to somehow "sugarcoat" his activities, but he is one of "those ducks".

Men are wired with much stronger sexual drives than women. This is common knowledge. That your mother refused to compromise with your father on that issue does not speak well of your mother. I'm guessing that she grew up in a household with no steady father-figure. Many women who grew up like this have a hard time coping with the "animal drives" of their husbands. This is a source of misery for many couples. The husband feels that the wife is there to "be used" as he wishes, and the wife feels that this is abnormal and resents her husband's daily sexual demands and complains loudly and often. You saw the result in your family. It could have been so sweet for both of them. When you are in love, you should want to please each other. That both sides must compromise on some things is obvious. Too many men do not take the trouble to find out what sexually stimulates their wives. One of the e-mails you read here describes a mid-aged woman with four kids that never experienced an orgasm with her husband. That is absolutely horrible to me, but I wonder how often that occurs. Too often, I'm sure. Too many women won't cut their husbands a little slack in the sack department. They have too many taboos and hang-ups in the bedroom. They are full of what they will and won't do. If a woman loves her husband, she should turn all of the hang-ups loose and just have fun with each other. Men truly can't help how they are sexually wired. Compromise is always appropriate. Give and take. The alternative for the husband to go to other men for sex is disgusting to me and is against God's Will. To me, your mother is partly responsible for that. That doesn't excuse your father's bad decision to turn to other men. Steve, you have read several times when I quoted "The wages of sin is death" from the bible. and I have also stated that the more evil you practice, the quicker you die. The statistics for homosexual men is that on average they die at 42 years of age. If you crank in the statistics to include those with aids, the average age at death is 39. Does God play a role in our lives? "You bet you." Satan was one of God's Angels once, but he fell from God's grace because of the sin of pride. He thought he could rival God because he too was very powerful and indescribably beautiful. God created him to be perfect in all ways, and also gave him the freedom of choice, just like He created us here on this earth. Satan made the wrong choice. God cast him down to this earth to work his mischief and evil. Satan knows how to make the lure of homosexuality very attractive and welcoming. Those who choose to follow him will discover, too late, how rotten and putrid all things that go against God's Will are. In the here and now; in our modern world, this sounds like a fairytale that no adult person is going to believe. Lots of people don't believe in God, let alone Satan, but how do you explain these statistics? If "they" can't help being what "they" are, and it's not their choice, then it looks to me that homosexuals have a serious genetic flaw that will insure their extinction, provided that "they" ever figure out how to pass on their genes from male/male, female/female unions. Homosexuality is a very bad choice for anyone, and everyone, that will lead to an early death.

I am shocked after my mother divorced my dad. She got a face lift and tummy tuck. She started to buy daring, brazen clothes and then she even got breast implants and her clothes show a deep cleavage. She buys at Victorian Secret. Brother Graham, my mother is 50 and I think this is ridiculous and it is also embarrassing. When I have my friends over they are always looking at her lasciviously. Well the other night we all got drunk with my mother--yes, she does things like that too now. Well then us guys went out to play basketball, except for one friend who stayed behind. Well then guess what---when we walked in they were kissing, my mom and friend. My friend is only 20. I am so thoroughly disgusted I feel sick. I hate my mother now. How could she do this--doesn't she know the word will get around? Well then I called and told my dad who accused her of infidelity before, and now I believe him. My dad is a churchgoer and loves Jesus. I hate my mother and wish she'd go play in the freeway. Lester L. Michigan

Lester, you seem to think that your mother, at 50, is old and should act that way. I am not taking her side. I just want you to understand that the biological urges that you feel around girls, and maybe some girls feel around you, are still very strong in your mother. That doesn't excuse her behavior with your friend. She displayed very poor judgment in what she chose to do, most especially with you around to "catch her in the act", so to speak. If I were you, I wouldn't invite any of my friends over to your house when you know your mother is at home. As for the implants and the other behavior, your mother is now single and has a need to be loved and admired and she is doing her best to make herself attractive. "Kissing" your friend at home was her way of trying to prove to herself that she still "had it", even with a younger man. If she had any desire to take that to the next level with your friend that would make her a very psychologically sick person. Not quite a pedophile, but close to it. Lester, if you are over eighteen and not in college, I really do recommend that you consider joining the Air Force and get away from your present surroundings. It would be a good place to decide what to do with the rest of your life while learning many, many things that will help you build your life while serving your country. It would also give your mother a clear message that you, as a man, will not tolerate her conduct and chose not to be around her.

I wish you luck and God's blessings.

Hi BG I am glad you are starting to answer question on the "bears" because this is a big problem where I live. Hairy, fat guys getting together and thinking they are so great. It makes me sick. Attached here is a pic I took of my brother and I hate him for what he is doing. These men are big and fat and so ugly and hairy. They think it is ok to be this way but you know it isn't. Samantha L.

Samantha, I really do believe that you should avoid your brother whenever and however possible. Further contact with him implies approval of him and the sicko that he has become. 1st. Thessalonians 5: 21&22 - "but test all things. Hold on to what is good. Stay away from every form of evil." Your brother made his choice, now it's your turn to shun this evil and it's perpetrators.

This may seem like a strange question but it is about my family. I have always been very different from them, almost as though I am a different race. My parents tend to favor the others and then there is me. They are all big and fat, and I am very thin and a darker color. I feel as though they really hate me because I am always blamed for everything. On all issues we disagree. They make me sick--literally, I have stomach problems and a sense of fear all the time. They make fun of me and gossip about me all the time. If I meet a new person they seem to like me, but after talking to ANYONE in my family, they turn against me. This is affecting my ability to excel in school because I am always depressed. I am fifteen. Gary L. New Hampshire

Gary, there are a few different issues here and I will start with why you look different. Occasionally in the family tree there are "recessive genes" that come to the fore. It might skip several generations, but a predominately blond-haired, blue-eyed family will produce one who is darker from some ancestor who was that archetype. Usually that is very unsettling to the family because it leads to the second possible reason; "IF" your mother got pregnant by a thinner, dark someone, other than your father, the result of that could be you. I am not being cruel by telling you this because you already suspect this is a possibility. The fact that you are being treated badly by your family confirms that this is most likely true. Who to blame this on is hard to nail down because you don't know the circumstances that led to your birth. It could be that your mother was raped and the family covered it up. In that circumstance it would be understandable that the family feels a bit hostile toward you subconsciously. That definitely does not excuse their poor behavior towards you. You didn't ask to be born into that family and your parents owe you the same love, affection, and respect that the other kids in your family are getting. That they are sort of ganging up on you to make your life miserable, is proof to me that they are not very smart people. Those who see "different/dark" as inferior are the type of people that made good Nazi's in WWII Germany. Whatever the reason for your difference, it could very well be that you are superior in several areas. That doesn't mean you are better than your family in intelligence but you might have a natural aptitude for accomplishing things that are out of their reach. You should try to find out what those things are. There are aptitude tests that you can take to show where your strengths and weaknesses are. Also, concerning your grades in school, believe it or not when "Dr." Karen was sixteen years old she was getting "D's" in most subjects in school. Then she discovered that she was exceptionally alert and alive around three o'clock in the morning. So she would set her alarm (or wake up naturally before it went off) for 3 AM and do all of her homework and/or study the things she needed to improve. After that she got straight "A's" in all subjects and took most of the top honors her school had to offer. In college she did the same, a perfect 4.0 grade average right up through her PHD in psychology. You have to discover what will work for you. You might need to do all of your studying away from home. I know that you seem helpless and hopeless in your present situation but that is not true. You need to toughen up your mind and not let your emotions rule your life. They might hurt your body but you are in control of your mind. You want to love your family, but how they act towards you does not foster love or respect for them. The only way you can get clarity for the difference you see between you and your family is a DNA test from you and one of your siblings and/or father. Before you do anything, I would suggest that you print out this e-mail, including the one you sent to me and get your parents to read them. If they have any sense of human decency and compassion they will immediately correct a lot of the crap they put you through. You have nothing to lose. If they react with further hostility, you need to tough it out until you get out of High School and move on, and don't look back. Feel free to write me again.

Hi Bro. It appears to me, and to some of my friends, that just about everyone under fifty is going gay, or coming out of the closet, or "not gay" but having sex with the same sex. I made a new friend (I am female) and we took a walk in nature, and she said she needed to urinate, and she pulled her pants down and looked to see if I was looking at her nudity. It made me sick--I think she thinks it is sophisticated or something, or libertine? I looked away, which I think is pure courtesy. Anything else is dirty. I couldn't believe it. Then I was working with a woman who kept coming on to me, and we were at a party and she started kissing me, saying "come on, come on". I don't ever want to see her again. What is happening here? Is there really an "explosion of perversion" like kk says? How can people say that "the percentage of gays is always the same"? It can't be---there are more now than ever. People didn't even think of such things in the fifties. Lucille H. Oregon.

Hi Brother Graham. I live on my family's farm in Wisconsin. Well about two years ago my cousins came for a visit and one of them raped me. He revisited the farm several times and said if I didn't have sex with him he'd tell my father, who would be sure to blame me. I don't want to keep having sex with my cousin, but we are five miles from the neighbors and I have no one to protect me. Mary Sue Hillory, Wis

Hey brother. Nice to see a military man with the right answers for a change. We need a strong man who speaks the truth. Well I'm really sick of things as they have become due to the "nasty revolution". I started to suspect that my wife was having sex relations with her "girl friends" because I found sex toys in her drawer and when they speak on the phone they speak very softy as if they are trying to hide things. Then they go out, supposedly, three times a week and she stays out late at night. I see many "tell tale" signs which I won't describe that indicate they are having sex. At first I thought "oh well, it's a new world" but then when I read what you said, I realized this was grounds for divorce. Please advise, Jeremy U.

Jeremy, unfortunately, most men are not too offended by what lesbians do. They are offended by what men do to each other because it seems so nasty to a normal man. Biblically speaking they are both equally wrong/sinful. If your wife is sexually involved with her girlfriends, she is violating her marriage vows to you. Most people take their vows to each other in a church with God as a witness, as well as the Pastor and people present. If you are considering a divorce, which I definitely do not recommend except as a last resort, you need to do a little spying on your wife and document times, places, the clues you found in your home, witnesses (other husbands of the "girlfriends"), and anything else. These days adultery is almost impossible to prove, and most judges won't take your claims seriously. In California, the court legal forms don't even list divorce as an option or reason for a divorce. If you gather all the facts you can and approach your wife and tell her you want a divorce, Things could work out for you if you are in a "no-fault" state. You are Biblically justified to ask for a divorce because it seems like your wife is committing adultery with other women and that is wrong. I don't think her "preference" carries much weight here. In your own home you do not have to be "tolerant".

Brother Graham you have no idea how bad things are. Boys and girls hangout together now and they often have sex, interchangeably. I know my daughter has about seven friends who go everywhere together, and two weeks ago her door was locked and I got panicky because I heard strange noises, so I got my key and opened the door and they were all in the nude, having sex in a huge king bed. You just have no idea how shock and sickened I was--I want to kick her out like you said and I want to die. Louise Hinde, Kentucky

Louise, the support and encouragement your daughter gets from counselors and teachers at school who condone and recommend this kind of behavior, completely undermines your authority as a parent. You have no credibility with your daughter because she sees you as being in the minority and her school and friends are the majority. Like the old "hippies" used to say years ago; "If it feels good - DO IT." It was wrong then and it's wrong now. You don't have to be "tolerant" in your own home. I would forbid your daughter from having "any" friends come to your home because your home should not be a "den of iniquity", or sex parlor for kids. She has disgraced your family by her conduct and you should act accordingly toward her. If she is not over 18, your do have one last resort. It's drastic, but it is an option. Go to the child welfare office and tell them that according to the school officials, where your daughter attends, you are not a fit mother because you will not allow your daughter to be one of her group's whores. Say you absolutely will not compromise by conceding to her "preference" and will not "tolerate" her in your home. Ask them nicely then to please come and pick her up for placement in a foster home. I do believe the "Child Welfare" pukes will jump at the opportunity to break up a home. Also, you might get your daughter to read this e-mail and give her one last chance to straighten out before you "lower the boom" on her. But don't do it unless you are serious about the Child Welfare threat. If you hesitate, she will call your bluff and you're back where you started from with no options. Drastic situations like yours calls for drastic actions. Is this really practical? If child welfare turns you down then you have a green light to impose whatever punishment and/or countermeasures you deem necessary to try and save your child from this great evil. Do the parents of the "other kids" know what is going on? I doubt that all of them do. Have you personally asked your daughter's counselor (or whoever) if the school officially condones this kind of behavior? You need to know this before you approach child welfare. If I was in your shoes, and could afford it, I would move to a more conservative part of the country and take that girl to a church that didn't teach this kind of crap. That probably wouldn't work if your daughter is so immersed in this sickness that she would try to subvert the kids in her new school.

Louise, you have some really hard decisions to make and I don't envy you your task. My comments on these issues are just my personal take on your situation. It is not a "roadmap" for future action. I get only the basic situation from people with very few details. For instance, if the school your daughter is attending is a college and not a middle or High School, that changes the whole situation, and most of my comments do not apply to your situation. But on the other hand some, who are reading this, are right in the middle of similar situations, so it is still relevant for them. Good luck.

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BG I want to thank you for your answers to the questions because there are so many grey areas and to tell you the truth TBN doesn't seem to preach against sin too much except for a couple like Parsley and Hagee. I have heard of the new trend of non-homosexual men having sex, esp married men having sex with other men. It is viewed as the in thing but is known as "down low"--it is secretive. On "as the world turns" and other soaps there are homosexual men kissing on the show. Talking about how they want to be alone together...I cannot believe Brother Graham that this would be on a common soap opera. Well now you mention the "bears"---that also is a new trend, of very ugly, hairy, old, fat men having sex together. And fat women having sex together--all because we should be "equal" and "democratic" about this thing. It would be laughably funny if it weren't so tragic. Thanks again Martha S. Y. Nebraska

Martha, the golden facade of superiority that the homosexual community has been proclaiming for years through Hollywood, the liberal press, and the school systems is starting to crack with the "Bears" and "sexy heavies". The window dressing and hype has always been intended to cover up what is a perversion of what God intended for us.

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A Message for R.J. - San Quentin

RJ, your silence is deafening. Three e-mails in a short period of time and I answered twice, and now nothing. My first e-mail was anti-establishment in the prison system. I rightly assume that you are now not allowed to access the computer or the web-site has been blocked. It's not enough that they have imprisoned your body, they want to imprison and control your mind and soul. They can't stand any opposition. The fact they have taken this action against you proves that the things I wrote to you is the truth and condemns them and their despicable system. God is on our side and against these "stealer's of souls" for profit. Keep praying and reading God's Word. Huge changes are coming and the prison population is going to increase greatly. They put the gangs in close proximity because when they kill each other, they are saving themselves a lot of trouble. The inmate population is then self-thinning. They are going to need the extra room in the near future. God Bless.

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I have a problem, but you'll probably say it is none of my business. My brother used to be a normal clean cut person. Now he is a hairy, bearded, fat slob who is a member of the "bears" club, the hyper-masculine gay community. He looks like a bear: extremely pronounced beard like an Amish and the biggest belly you ever saw. And he likes men who look just like him. Brother Graham I am so ashamed to call him my brother. These ridiculous slob perverts get together on weekends for "cookouts" where they have sex together and pride themselves on their perversions. I want to divorce my brother--I don't want to have anything to do with him. If I had an effeminate brother who was gay, it would be one thing. But a homosexual brother who looks like a big fat hairy bear? That is another thing. Disgusting. Please advise. Grace J.

Grace, your family's honor and good name is your business. Your brother's actions have brought dishonor to your family. It doesn't matter whether he is effeminate bearish or fishy. In the old days such a person would be shunned by all family and respectable friends. Tell him he is not welcome in your home under any circumstances. You do not have to be "tolerant" of anything in your own home. Change your phone number if you have to. If you see him in a public place, ignore him. If he bothers you, get a restraining order. If he loves or cares about you at all, he will respect your privacy. He's made his choice, now make yours. After all, it's your "preference".

Hi Brother Graham. I am 13 years old and I am a Christian. My mother can't home school me because she must work and my dad died. I am in a public school which is so crowded with blacks and Mexicans and gangs. The girls fight just as much as the boys. I have watched shows on the crowded prisons and this is what I feel like. I am afraid of girls because they are cruel. The other day I went to the bathroom and two girls were having sex and I won't say how. It is kind of embarrassing to say. I went to the counselor and told her what I saw. She said it was none of my business, and that I must learn to tolerate. I feel sick in my stomach, I feel sad because I miss my dad. I told my pastor in the church what I saw. He too said I must learn to tolerate. But I had learned from my dad these things are wrong. What is the truth? I don't want to go to school any longer because I am scared of the girls and I don't agree with the things they do. Kathy H. Indiana

Kathy, You are being taught that right is wrong, and wrong is right--so you must stick to your guns. In Webster's dictionary the word "tolerate" means: "to recognize and respect (others' beliefs, practices, etc.) without necessarily agreeing or sympathizing." Words mean things and normally you can look things up in the dictionary for the proper meaning. But that is not always true. When you go to court it is best to hire a lawyer because he has special training in what "legal terminology" to use. They are mostly the same words that we use every day but in court they take on a different meaning. What your counselor and pastor meant by the word "tolerate" doesn't come very close to what Mr. Webster intended. Your Dad taught you the right thing. Right and wrong can only be determined by a set of standards. You have been taught what is good and what is bad in God's sight. Doing the right things in life should be your goal. Avoiding bad things is the only smart thing to do. Your counselor and pastor want you to believe that your standards are not important and that there is no such thing as right and wrong. They are teaching that there is only "preferences". I know that it is wrong to murder someone. Does it make any difference what my "preference" is? I know that it is wrong for girls to have sex with each other, whether or not they're in a bathroom at school. What has anybodies "preference" have to do with it. I know that you are right to reject any acceptance of what those girls did, because you have a good set of standards. Don't believe the lie that there is no right and wrong. We do not have to accept what Hitler did in Germany because it was his preference. We do not have to accept what pedophiles do to children because it is their "preference" to sexually molest children. Kathy, hold tight to what your father taught you. He loved you and wouldn't lie to you. In the next few years the world is going to go even more crazy in many ways. This "tolerance" thing is just a symptom of worse things to come. Be very very careful and try not to draw attention to yourself in school and hang out with others that believe like you do. Whenever possible stay together, it's safer. Remember to pray for God's help, He is always with you and His Spirit lives within you. You are never alone. My prayers are with you.

My problem is my stepmother. She dresses like a whore and wears fancy make-up and got breast implants and wears low cut dresses and tight sweaters. My dad seems stoked on her and they go out nightly to clubs to dance and drink. She looks like a damn whore and me and my sister hate her. At night we can hear the bed creaking back and forth and it makes me sick. Brother Graham my mother was a nice lady and she was good and kind and kept house. This whore never keeps house--she's too busy applying her make up and crap like that. The rest of the time she's watching TV, picking her nose, applying make up, talking on the phone to her friends, and looking at herself in the mirror. I hate her. My sister is 14 and I am 17. I'd like to move from the house but can't aford it as I am still in high school. She makes me sick. I want her to leave. I'd do anything to make the bitch leave. How could my dad betray us like this? I want my mother back. I called my mom last week and told her how much I hate the smelly bitch. The bitch doesn't make us food and the kitchen is always a mess. My sister refuses to clean up after her. My dad gives us money for take out, that's it. Instead of a warm breakfast like my mom fixed, my dad brings home donuts twice a week. I want my mom back and I hate the whore. David Y. Santa Ana, CA

OK David, Sometimes in life you just have to play the hand that you're dealt. You don't make the rules, your father does. That your mother isn't in your daily life is a real bummer and I definitely sympathize with you and your sister. However, your dad provided everything in your home and you do owe him respect. You disagree with his choice of a wife, but it was his choice to make. To her face, you must not be belligerent. As such, you and your sister are wrong to make life miserable for all of you because you don't like your step-mother (if that's what you're doing). A whore is a prostitute. She is for hire. I take it your step-mother restricts her attentions to your father only. She might dress gaudy and smear on her make-up with a trowel, but you are wrong to call her a whore, most especially not on a public forum like the internet. That could back-fire on you real bad. How your father and s-m like to entertain themselves is also none of your business. You are too old to need a baby-sitter, so be glad for the peace and quiet in the house once in a while. I suggest that you and your sister go out of your way to keep your bedrooms very neat and clean, and any other areas of the house and yard that you are responsible for. If your dad sees the difference between you two and her then, at a minimum he will "encourage her to shape up. He is cutting her a lot of slack because they're newlyweds (I think). Once the rosy glow fades he will get impatient with her slovenly habits. He'll remember how nice and neat it was when your mother was still with you. You can speed that process up by keeping your own space clean and neat. You should have a talk with your father about hearing him carrying on in the bedroom. Tell him that you are a normally wired 17 year old that likes girls and you find it disturbing and inappropriate to be forced to hear your father and s-m bouncing about, moaning and groaning at odd hours of the night. David, when you graduate from High School, join the Air Force and escape. With some success at that, maybe you could set up a home with your sister at least for a while. Things always change. You can't stop that.

Hello Mr. Graham and thank you for your notes. I am a mother of two girls 15 and 17. They are both what you would call "super obese", one weighing 250 and one 280. They are very fat. On top of that their rooms are cluttered and filthy with food wrappers and now they are into pornography. Because they are so fat, there are no boys around. They are lesbians, and they are with very fat girlfriends both of them. What is this world coming to Brother Graham? Can you give me any advice? Mrs. R. Hindstrom, Virginia.

Brother Graham I hate my G-D father. He's a real ass-hole. I hate his guts. He abandonned my dog to get back at me, my dog is gone. He beats up my mother. He drinks all weekend and gets horibly violent. Last year I caught him drinking at a bar with another woman. I despise this man with such a passion I'd like to kill him. I dream of killing him. I can only admit this anonimusly. I am so driven with rage against this fucking prick and my mom hates him too. He is always putting me down. He says I'm lazy and useless and will never ammount to anything. I'd rather be dead than live here, but I have to protect my mum. Richard, Sussex UK

Richard, according to your e-mail you : Hate your father; despise your father; would like to kill your father; and you definitely would like to take revenge for all the bad things he put you and your mother through. In other words you want to become just like your father. In order for you to retaliate against him you must become a really mean, spiteful, hateful, and abusive person. Why in the world would you want to become what you despise? Many times family violence is a closed loop. Your father is mean and violent, so you and your mother react with hostility and disapproval. You become obstacles to any peace with him. He sees that and it makes him mad so he, in turn, becomes mean and violent. And so the loop continues to repeat over and over again. There is no escape for anyone until and unless someone breaks the cycle of hatefulness. Your father is not going to do it, so it is up to you and your mother. It is going to be the hardest thing you have ever attempted to do in your life because it's not natural or normal. Normal is when someone strikes you, your natural reaction is to at least want to strike back. Read "Man's Sin Problem" on this web-site to give you an idea of what this fight is all about. All of you in your family are losing the war that is fought inside all of us. Even though you feel that you might pop a gasket, be nice to your father, you and your mother. The nicer and more respectful you appear to him, the worse he will look in his own eyes. The trigger for him to repeat the cycle of violence and hatefulness will be greatly diminished. He will once again feel welcome in his own home and he will act accordingly by showing a more tolerant behavior. If you don't change, he can't change, and so the cycle of misery will continue. I know that England has become very secular, but I encourage you to go to church and pray for God's help for this extremely difficult task I have suggested for you. Some problems are just too hard without some help.

Hi Brother Graham. I am a friend of Suzie who wrote you and is on your page. I want you to know that I am also a Christian and we go to the same church. She told me you spoke to her about gays. I want you to know that I am going through the same thing. I think gays are bad and sickening. The girls are always touching each other in private places and the boys too. This is common now. The counselors say it is normal and some say we should all be gay. They say it is a new world utopia. I hate it because I am a Christian and the bible says God burnt down Sodom and Gomorra. I am beginning to hate school. It is also very crowded with other races and cultures and it used to be almost all white. There is fighting, even the girls. Please can you tell me where I can go to school. Can I drop out. Can I run away? Can I come there and be with you and Karen? There are bullies in school. My parents say I must accept it, and just see the good and forget the bad but it is hard on me. Melinda K. L.

Karen and I live in the middle of the desert and right now at 9:30 in the morning it is 102 degrees in the shade of our front porch . We like it but I don't think you would be happy here. The grass is not greener on the on the other side of the fence because there is no grass here. That means that in other places it's not always better for you. Your parents are right. You must accept what you see around you but you don't have to accept what you know is wrong in your heart. God sees all of this and knows and approves of your loyalty and love for Him. Melinda, my prayers are with you. Don't give up.

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Hi Brother. I've been reading some of your letters and doesn't it all come down to the new tolerance? Karen told us to read the book last year and it gave me a whole new viewpoint. It is far more dangerous and prevalent than we realize. Most people are very complacent. I am home schooling my children since I read the book and they are SLOWLY "coming out of it"--the old hypnotism that "everyone is equal" or "all lifestyles are equal" or that we must be tolerant of these despicable sins that people are committing. It is so bad that our dear children have to tolerate such depravity--it just makes you sick. Elizabeth W. New Orleans

Hi Bros. I am an animal rights advocate. In Korea and China they skin cats and dogs alive for their fur. They use the fur for "faux fur" for women's clothes and also child's toys. I complained to a store who sells them and they said "it's just your preference" as if I had no right to complain about this horrid act. Steve L.

I really love the music. Even the old tunes coming through is a "shot" of fascination. I love having the music on all day long. It makes me see how absurd the world is. I see the writings in a new light. What happened to Karen Kellock and why are you the only accessible one? I love Karen Kellock for her strangeness and I think she is a brilliant genius, she would have to be to put this together. Thank you all. I am 53 years young. I am losing my looks, like overnight and I used to feel "it was all over for me". But now from reading Karen's pages I think I have a new shot at life. I think I could get my figure and looks back and I can't thank you enough for this. Do you think I can de-age? I can actually do this? This is an amazing thing, and without plastic surgery? Merilinda L, Boise Idaho

Merilinda, I am strictly a linear person (retired military). Most things for me are black and white, although I have no trouble recognizing shades of gray. Karen is a nonlinear person that exists on a plain that I don't have easy access to. She will always be outside of the norm, outside of the herd, and ahead of most people. We are, to each other, what the other cannot be. We complement and enhance each other like two dissimilar instruments playing the same tune in harmony. Karen reads each e-mail before it is sent out and we discuss any differences of opinion and, once resolved, let it fly. Not to use your e-mail as an excuse to "preach", I must tell you that when the very first wrinkle appears on your face in your twenties, that is evidence that your body is starting to die. I believe it when the Bible says that the "wages of sin is death". It is my personal belief and observation in life that the more wrongdoing, or sin, that is in your life, the faster you will age and die. If anybody "cleans up their act" and gives their body the correct nutrients with which to repair itself, they can reverse the process of aging for many years. You will look younger. Karen likes to hike around the desert where we live (wearing not much) and she started to show some sun damage on her nice skin. I suggested she start using a German product called "Hormocenta". She was hesitant of trying it because hostile chemicals make her sick. That's why we live about a half mile from the nearest neighbor. She read the ingredients carefully and decided to try it. It worked great. The worst of the damage started to clear up immediately and she's looking forward to even more improvements to her skin. I recommend this to everyone in any kind of climate. I have known about this product since the early sixties and have seen it work for many people, including myself. In my early thirties, I got rid of some deep "crows feet" by my eyes with this. Karen is still accessible through me because she is busy tweaking her diet recommendations. We recently got five pounds of chia seed that dramatically increases stamina and energy with only a couple of tablespoons full before exercising. Works great. The Inca and Aztecs considered it to be special food that only royalty were allowed to eat. Maybe Karen thinks that I'm a "royal pain" sometimes and that's why it works for me. It works for Karen, of course, because she is the queen of my life. Stay with it Merilinda, and you will succeed.

Thanks for the page "elder". This makes growing old a good thing, not a shoddy thing like we are made to feel in this culture. It is true that being old, I am smarter than I've ever been. This is a youth-glorifying culture but most traditional cultures value the "old" for their wisdom. My kids don't listen to me--to hell with them. I will send them this page. Do you agree with this Graham? I see old in a new light. Wisdom Smith, Oregon

I am being bullied by a godam bitch. She's a butch. I despise this person. She is jealous of me because I am better looking than her. She is fat. She emails me, follows me, calls me and leaves nasty messages. I am really afraid she may hurt me seriously. What can I do. Sally R. San Diego.

Hi bros. I am a survivor of incest. My father had sex with me all through childhood. He died three years ago but brother graham that doesn't take away the terrible memories. The worst part is my mother never defended me from this, even though she knew it was happening. How can I ever forgive her. This has affected me so much, in my mistrust of men. I just don't think I will ever be normal. Sue Ann J. Trenton NJ

Sue Ann, when I have a large task or job to do, I break it down into separate components, or compartments. When I was in the military, I learned to separate my emotions from my intellect. I also learned to keep different aspects of my personality separate, depending on the situation and my surroundings. The person I was at home with my family was not the same person that the men I was responsible for training observed, When I was teaching a Bible study, the people there saw yet another side of me. What I'm telling you is that we are able to compartmentalize ourselves to fit different circumstances. You must learn to do that too. In one compartment carefully place that little girl that was hurt and abused so much and close the lid. You can comfort her any time you feel you need to. You will always love her because she is the you that used to be. Now you are an adult and you need to show an adult face to the world. The damaged emotions of that little girl will only interfere with your life in the here and now. You are intellectually in control of you life now and don't have to continue to suffer as that little girl did. You have safely set her aside in a protected place. Start making platonic friends and develop a social life. Sex is never obligatory and it's only smart to see if you really like someone first before you take it any further. If I were you, I would avoid your mother, because that only lets the little girl out of her compartment to hurt and bleed some more. She doesn't deserve to share your life, unless, with God's help, you can truly forgive her. The Lord's prayer says to "forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us". We all make mistakes and need God's forgiveness. You need to forgive your mother if you can. It might help to heal that little girls broken heart.

Hello Mr. Graham. I thought my situation was so unique but after reading your page I am amazed at how SICK--REALLY SICK--everyone has become. Much of it is from broken families. My mother divorced my father, which broke my heart because now she won't let him back and I was closer to him. He was such a kindly man, and now he has remarried. I am stuck with my mother who drinks martinis all day. Now she is marrying another man who has three kids, kids I have to live with. I am 17 and they are 9, 13 and 16--the boy. He keeps hitting on me and when she is drunk or away he makes moves on me. I basically hate him because I know he is into pornography and also I think he has sex with boys because after school they all go into his room and turn on loud music and he locks the door. Afterwards the bed is all messed up. I miss my father Brother Graham. My father was a Christian man and I feel heartbroken, sick to my stomach, depressed. I went to the school counselor and they want to put me on medication. I want to run away from home but where would I go? My father has moved to the East coast and his new wife has her own family. Emily, Los Angeles

Emily, Your problems are huge and the obstacles you face are horrible but they can be managed. You can deal with them in a way that will help not only you but the members of your new family. First, e-mail or write to your father and tell him about these things. Ask him to talk to your step-father personally, on the phone. I don't think talking to your mother will do anything. Alcohol makes the world a bit fuzzy and it's easier to dismiss reality even if the ones you love are hurting. Emily I hope you are a Christian. Then I would know that God's Spirit lives within you, and when you pray to God for help, you would know for certain that God is right there with you to help with you problems, all of your problems. If you don't go to church somewhere, I encourage you to do so. There you will find friends that are not a part of the evil that you find in your school and in your own home. Many people think that Sunday School is only for little kids, but that's not true. Learning from God's Word, the Bible, benefits everyone of all ages. It has been my life-long desire to learn more and more, and you can't believe how happy it makes me to be able to share what I have learned with the people on this web-site. I claim no wisdom of my own other than to trust in God and His Word. Emily, that wisdom can be yours too if you earnestly try to do what God wants for your life. Go to church and pray for His help. You won't be disappointed. When your step-brother "hits on you", ask him the question: "Do you know that God loves you and watches you all the time, even behind locked doors?" Emily you must become a mirror to those who oppose you. If you return harsh, nasty words to their harmful comments then you become just like them. If you act and talk like them, you become them. Don't become like those you despise. Instead, if you return a kind word to your enemies, and act in a in a way that makes them look bad compared to you, they can't help but draw a comparison between themselves and your good behavior. The Bible says in Luke 6:27 - "But I (Jesus) say to you who listen; Love your enemies, do good to those that hate you, bless those who curse you , pray for those who mistreat you." That is what is meant by "turning the other cheek". If someone slaps you and you slap them back, then you have become like them. You are no better than them. If someone is bad or mean to you and you are nice in return, you make them look like the jerks that they are. This is a very hard thing to do. If you have read my essay about "Man's Sin Problem" then you understand the war going on inside all of us, most definitely including me. It is normal to "strike back" and "retaliate" against those who oppose you. I am asking you to handle your problems in a way that doesn't seem "normal" to this world. As a Christian, you will never be alone and "you can do this." My prayers are with you to ask God for help and strength to do what you must. Your friend - BG

My name is Susan. I am 11 years old. I go to middle school. They say I am supposed to accept and love gays. I was taught in Sunday School it is wrong. My parents taught me it is wrong. The other day I vomited in school after I was told I had to love gay people. It goes against what I have been taught. I went home and told my mother and she went to the principal and they called her a narrow bigit. Brother Graham I hate going to school now. The gay girls are mean to me and the other day they kept kicking my chair from behind, yelling at me and pulling my hair because I don't love gays. I wish I could die. Please help me. Can you help me please. Suzie Streiker, Ohio USA.

My dear Christian sister Suzie: Thank you for writing to me with your problem. It is a problem that many other girls and boys are facing. You are not alone with your problem. Jesus promised us that we will never be hurt more than we can stand. Your school teachers and classmates are hurting you because you know what is right and wrong according to the Bible. I know it is very hard for you, but you must remain true to your belief in God and what it says in the Bible. Your parents love you very dearly and will only tell you what is right and true. Your teachers and classmates do not love you and want you to believe what is false, things that are lies according to the Bible. They will continue to hurt you and be mean to you but Jesus tells us to try and be nice to them in return. You are not alone, ever. Every morning get on your knees beside your bed and pray to God to help you through the day. This is also good advice for grown-ups too. God is with you always and God's Holy Spirit is in your heart. You need to ask your parents to read this and to pray with you so you will become strong enough to get through each day. Also ask your parents to read e-mail #68. It's about a girl who didn't make the right choice. Suzie, it is very important that you tell your parents about your problems because they do love you and want to help. Your brother in Christ.

Hi Brother Graham. I like reading your page. I appreciate so much Karen's theory, and the best part is the simplicity esp of the diet. My kitchen is clean and simple now. Well I have a problem which you may think is small compared to all the other ridiculous things i have read people are involved in. But my husband is a television addict. It's on all day and night, when I'd rather have Karen's music on all day, hooked to huge speakers. My husband is "annoyed" by music but can stand the crazy tv even the commercials. How do i get him to change? I think music evokes higher thought, as background. I love the music but have to listen to it in my little room with headphones. Maryanne L K Dallas

MaryAnne, The odds of changing you husband are slim to none, if he doesn't see any advantage for him to making a change. He just won't make the effort unless he benefits somehow from it. He must be motivated to make a change. What kind of benefit you can offer him so he will at least agree to compromise is something that you will have to discover. The e-mails I get just gives me the barest of information with which to make any relevant comments to help you. Threats and ultimatums won't work unless you are serious about making good those threats &/or ultimatums. I recommend something positive, not negative. Music evoke thought. TV blocks out thought with mindless static (for the most part) and provides "filler" for the "in between times" of your life. I am occasionally guilty of this very thing and find that I have plenty of things that I would like to do and projects to finish, but don't if I fall into my TV trap. My "things to do" and my "unfinished projects" are easier to get through if I am playing music. The work becomes enjoyable. Go to any bar or store in town--there is no longer nice music, just the "boob tube". It is a wonder to me how people can tolerate constant TV but then be irritated by nice music but I guess it's a sign of our crazy times--babble is in.

Hello "normal" Brother Graham. We love KK because she is (crazy or cosmic? who cares--she's the greatest) but I like the approach here, of two disparate styles of presentation. Karen Kellock is very unique and "unsettling" shall we say? Many love her but I'm sure many would like her to shut up. Then, they don't have to read her, but with such great music they are drawn to the site then curiosity opens the colorful artistic pages. Then they get mad. Many of us were faggot-tolerant liberals before her website, but now agree that it really is a perverse thing. It really IS the reason Muslims hate America. it really IS the reason God is raining down destruction. God bless KK and God bless you for helping the good fight. Thank you also for the "rejection spirit" page because I have been rejected all of my life and that helped a good deal. I think you are more approachable then Karen Kellock, for the reason that she intimidates many people with her direct approach and they feel sheepish in approaching her. I feel she is a unique creative genius of our time, but rather reserved or distant from the masses. The KK Public Forum relieved this sense of distance, or inability to approach her or get to know her, by GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER, and nursing our wounds. It was great to have these friendships which have lasted since the forum. But now, we have you too. I feel I can talk to you, and I hope you write back because I need to communicate about these things. I would like to know more about what the government is secretly doing about marshal law. Can you please explain more about their secret policies? Shamus Redlands, New Jersey.

Hello Brother Graham. I am gay. But I don't want to be. I am sick of the whole thing--like buggery. I am ashamed and I admit it, but I am still attracted to men. I enjoyed your "flesh war" page (can't remember exact title) and that explains my dilemma. I don't want to be this way. Do you know how cruel men can be? Well then you can imagine the hurt they cause me. I'm not sure I could be happy with a female, but if she were a good Christian woman--like your GREAT page on the woman--I would be so happy. The problem is most women are fat and crazy now, and I don't think I'm prejudiced to say this. Men work out and LOOK GOOD whereas females look terrible. Just look around--how many Christian "fit" ladies do you see? So that means I would have to be alone and that is not easy for me Brother Graham. I need company and men give that to each other. I need affection and men are very affectionate too--the problem is, they can also be violent and hurtful. What can I do? Just be a monk or something? Brother Graham I am only 28 and this is driving me crazy. Harry J. San Francisco.

Harry, your whole attitude here is focused on you. You used the word "I" sixteen times. You speculate about what women and men mean to you, what they can do for you, etc. What do you have to offer that a woman would want? You seem to think that you are the only one who can pick and choose what you want. What do others want from you? Do you meet any woman's standards for what she wants? The good Christian woman you talk about wouldn't want a man who performs what the Bible calls a perversion. In order to attract a good woman you must be (or become) a good man. Men and women can be equally cruel. Neither gender has a monopoly on cruelty. I suggest you don't look for most women (who you believe to be fat), instead look for one, and only one, special woman who is athletic, smart, pretty and any other criteria you choose. You won't find her among the guys who are involved with themselves.

BG Thanks for interacting, finally. I wish it were more on the splendid science theory, and diet, but this is good too. Is your wife still around? She used to have such a presence on the internet but now we just have the music. Anyway, I have a terrible problem. I married a compulsive gambler. I can honestly say it is a terrible and dangerous addiction. He loves to go to the casinos three times a week, pig out, get perks, and plunk down his money. We have lost many things including a boat and camper he had to sign away. He won big once, about ten years ago, and never forgot it--it keeps him coming back. He takes regular trips to Las Vegas with his buddies, a bunch of degraded creeps, and who knows what they do there? This is like alcoholism--he sinks to lower companions and it has lowered all his standards. Ordinarily neat, he's now a junkard. There is trash and crap everywhere in his room and garage. The cars are a wreck since he spends every available dime on gambling. Our bills are piling up, his credit cards he's maxed out for cash to gamble. I am afraid we will soon lose our house. All he does is "buy time" for that one big win that's going to "change our lives forever." Please help me Mr. Graham. Betty K. L. El Cajon CA

Betty, gambling is both a disease and a terrible sin. Even bingo in churches that little old ladies indulge in is evil and wrong. I live in California where there is new casinos being built daily and 80% of the people in my small town go to the casinos three times a week. Gambling and gluttony go together--they get people in there with their big food buffets. People lose their homes and forsake the needs of their family due to this terrible addiction. If we need money we must trust God to supply all our needs, not chance and taking bets. A friend I know won a grand in nickels ten years ago--and can't forget it so goes to casinos practically daily despite the three hour drive (and never wins). Winning is like an orgasm they can't ever forget and it propels this mind-blowing compulsion. But the gambling slogan you should remember is: THE HOUSE ALWAYS WINS. In every casino there is a little room in the back where you can sign away your car or house, and plenty do. This new trend in our culture is sure to ruin it along with sex sins and abortion. As they build new prisons daily they also build new casinos. - Karen

Betty, your fears are well grounded and you should take measures to protect yourself. The old saying that "familiarity breeds contempt" is true. Your husband won't take you seriously unless he is approached by your lawyer. I recommend that you create a "post-nuptial contract" with your husband to get legal control of your house. It must be your sole legal property so he can't lose it in a poker game or whatever. U.S. citizens have unlimited rights to contract as long as both parties agree. If you husband won't cooperate, threaten him with divorce. If you don't do something, he could lose everything and lose you anyway. Love dies when dishonor, dishonesty, disrespect, and abuse enters your life through gambling or any other psychological sickness.

In your case, I am advocating that you act against your husband, for that is not biblically correct. The fact that you are doing this for his own good, would normally not excuse you from doing it. The fact that chronic gambling is a mental disorder changes the whole thing legally and ethically. According to DR. Karen, people in the onset period of Alzheimer's disease fall very easily into the chronic gambling disorder. The worse-case scenario here is that they gamble away all the funds that they will need for their care later on. Betty, for both your sakes, do not hesitate to do what you have to do. If you love him, you will do what you must. Shock for good effect for your INTERVENTION--even if involving professionals--is what's going to save your family if possible.. - BG

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Hello Brother Graham. I am going with a young college professor, age 35. I am age 57. Because of my SUDDEN and explosive and intense and exciting involvement with this smart man, I left my Dr. husband and four kids. The reason is with Jack (the prof.) it was the first time I ever reached a climax (sorry if too graphic here) and I just couldn't help it, I wanted out of this useless and dead marriage. Well now everyone hates me--my entire extended family has condemned me. That is hard to live with, but now there's a new bummer: Jack is starting to date young college girls in their early twenties. I have given him two pieces of property to "hold" him and it works for awhile but then he says he WILL continue to date the young coeds. What can I do at this point? Wilma H.

Well Wilma, I guess we all reap what we sow. I could write volumes on fault and what to call which error what, but this is fairly clear. Your intelligent husband is a real dork if, after four kids, he never figured out that "getting off your jollies" is supposed to be a two-way street. You are both in the wrong. Retaliation is not a justifiable reason for any sin. Wrong is wrong (like two wrongs don't make a right). It seems to me that your attempt to bribe your husband to excuse your behavior and to insure his good behavior didn't work. If your marriage is really over with, then make it legal. I wouldn't worry about the coeds in that case because he doesn't have any more to offer them than what he offered you in the marriage bed. I truly believe that your smart 35 year old exciting proffessor is equally at fault for even offering to get involved with you, a married woman with four kids. When he is your present age of 57, where are you going to be? Do you believe that he intends to marry you or even stick around as you approach 80 years old? The thrill of the moment is not enough to build your life on, especially if you must give up most of what you took so long to build up; a home, family, friends, etc. Even people who jump out of perfectly good airplanes for sport, know that they are going to hit the ground sooner than later. They can see it coming, all the way down Wilma, your young professor has you falling without a parachute. Any property and funds you might have is a poor parachute and you're going to hit the ground hard. Please reevaluate your priorities and establish some long term goals for your life. Ask the young prof. if he intends to be there or are you just his latest conquest?

I was rejected by my fiance. He went to another girl and my whole world split apart suddenly. I vomited the whole day when I got the dear john letter, then had to spend a whole week in bed crying. I really loved this guy. Just the thought of him with another girl makes me sick still. I feel so sad and depressed--especially on rainy windy days, when we used to enjoy taking nature walks. There is no one for me but this one guy. He is perfect for me. Brother Graham I can't imagine living without him and I want to die--will I go to hell if I do myself in? Thank God there is FINALLY someone who we can talk to, as Karen stopped answering emails about three years ago. Is she sick, or what happened? Anyway, I have really enjoyed reading all your answers. Margaret L.

Margaret, I've responded to this basis question about rejection and am in the process of numbering your e-mails with my responses. When that's done I can refer you to the appropriate response (78?). I know that sounds a bit impersonal but the number of e-mails are growing and there is only me to do the answering. It is so great to have Karen's experience and knowledge to draw on whenever I get stuck in psychological nooks and crannies. Sometimes I have to do quite a bit of research to verify that my comments are authentic and reliable and that takes time. What I write doesn't just come off the top of my head on a whim. Wisdom rarely does. Meanwhile, that doesn't fix your broken heart. Think ahead Margaret. When you have a daughter about your age or a little younger, you're going to tell her all about this romance and laugh about it. You will tell her about it because you love her and don't want her to make the same mistakes you made. Even though a lot of time has passed, you will tell her how serious it was to you at the time, and that it really hurt - a lot. Especially bad was that you gave your heart and body to a man who obviously didn't, or couldn't, see what a treasure you were offering to him. Maybe that was part of the problem. Maybe you shouldn't have offered him "everything" so there wouldn't be any pleasant surprises or mysteries to explore during the honeymoon you were hoping for. Engaged is not married and shouldn't be treated as such. Is there anything left to offer your prospective husband after the marriage or has he seen and experienced it all? I'm sure he had a "good time" so now he wants to get it all once again with a different girl. Your daughter will nod her head wisely as you tell your story, and tell you that she would never make that kind of mistake. You should look forward to seeing what kind of mistakes she will make, if not the ones you made. It's OK because you will be there to help her through it as I am helping you now. Time heals and suicide is permanent. Fill your life with God's love.

I am in love with a man I went out with. I'm sure he sees it as a one-night stand but I never forgot how he loved me. Well now I find out he is gay. This makes me so sad and sick. I went on the internet and found out this is a common problem, with the "bi-curious". They are both ways. Brother Graham I can't forget this man--he loved me that night why can't he just be satisfied with me? What do I do? Sad and forsaken and ready to end it all, Sally I

Sally, there is a difference in being "in love" and "making love". Truly "in love" is about committing to another person with heart, mind, soul, and body. You give your all to the other person. "Making love" is certainly something that people "in love" should do when the occasion "arises", but, "making love" in our society has become just another way of saying "having sex". There might be a bit of romance involved but too often it has degenerated into just "getting it on". Young girls throw away their virginity almost casually with no flowers, no dinner outing, no dancing, and, the majority of time, no love. Just sex. Well, your bi-curious "friend" was evidently very charming and talented because he certainly made an impression on you. You are "sad and forsaken" when you should be absolutely furious that some guy's "Butt-Buddy" chose you to diddle away an evening with your body and, in the process, bruised your heart. Get over it. He's not worth a single tear because he is not shedding any tears over you. He's a UPS fan. He's probably rediscovering what brown can do for him. Get on with your life and next time, check your prospective partner's track record before any significant events in your life, and not after.

Hi Brother Graham. I want you to know that I have thoroughly enjoyed your answers. They are very kind, and you seem like a really nice man. You are not judgemental, you just state the word of God. I have a very personal trauma in my life, so please do not mention my name. I have been a loyal follower of Karen Kellock Ph.D. for ten years, and never did I predict she'd go churchy--but with you, it all makes sense now. Ok here goes: I married a man twenty years my senior ten years ago. We were happy for a few years but then he became a TV addict, just as I became strong and mature through the "KK Theory" (as it is affectionately called). I enjoy music, or silence and I like my thoughts to "spring out to outer space" like Karen says. I keep a very neat house now, as she stresses that almost the most, for mental clarity. I keep a journal and my entire life has changed. Well now my older husband has become a FUDDY-DUDDY BORING FAT HUNDRUM IDIOT to me. He isn't interested in reading Karen's books and coming along with me "to the stars". I am thoroughly bored with him and there is NO--I MEAN "NUN"--SEX LIFE. As you probably know by now, Karen's theory is such a radical departure that if you don't come along with it, there is little in common. THE GIST OF THIS MESSAGE: I have fallen in love with his son, age 34 (husband is 60 and I am 40). His son has read Karen's books, eats doughless pizza, works out, takes walks with me, enjoys music with me, and we have an INCREDIBLE sex life, one I could never dream possible. I feel ashamed of myself because I feel I may go to hell (will I?) but I just can't help it. I am in love with John. PLEASE RESPOND BROTHER GRAHAM I DON'T WANT TO GO TO HELL. Julie U. J. Montana

Deuteronomy 27:20 - "Cursed is the man who sleeps with his father's wife, for he has violated his father's marriage bed." Exodus 20:14 - "Do not commit adultery." (Webster's) Adultery - "Violation of the marriage bed; sexual intercourse - between a married woman and a man not her husband." That is what the "Old Testament " says about you and your son-in-law's actions. This is what the "New Testament" says: Luke 16:16 - "The Law and the Prophets (Old Testament) were until John (the Baptist); since then, the good news of the kingdom of God has been proclaimed, and everyone is strongly urged to enter it." Matthew 22:36 to 40 - "Teacher (Jesus), which commandment in the law is the greatest?" He (Jesus) said to him, Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and most important commandment. The second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and the Prophets depend on these two commandments." Matthew 5:17&18 - "Don't assume that I (Jesus) came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfill. I assure you: Until heaven and earth pass away, not the smallest letter or stroke of a letter will pass from the law until all things are accomplished." I know that is a lot to digest but I'll help you make sense of it: According to the Old Testament law your son-in-law is cursed for sleeping with you and you are an adulteress and in those times you would be put to death for this grievous sin (Lev. 20:10). John the Baptist was the very first to announce the coming Kingdom of God. Jesus is the King of that Kingdom. God is God and over all. Jesus established that Kingdom when He died on the cross, the perfect sacrifice for our sins. Our sins died with Him, were destroyed with His death for all who will accept Jesus, and His sacrifice for you. Your salvation depends entirely on whether or not you accept into your heart this wonderful gift that God is offering to you. That is what is meant by "everyone is strongly urged to enter it." It is your decision to make, only yours. If you accept the Salvation that Jesus is offering you, the sins of adultery and all of the other sins you have committed in your life will be washed away by the blood that Jesus shed for you. If your son-in-law accepts Jesus as his Savior, the curse will be lifted from him, and all of his sins will be forgiven also. But, like the lady Jesus admonished at the well, you must "go and sin no more." Julie, what you two have done is wrong and it must stop. Good sex does not have a higher priority than eternal life in the Kingdom of Heaven. I have known of other couples in similar circumstances like yours and the man involved usually dies early. That is punishment in this life and the next. If you continue on this course, it will lead to heartbreak and unhappiness. You two have some decisions to make and only you can make them. I can only show you what God's Word says. God's Word says.

Hi Bro. I too am a minister of the gospel of Jesus Christ. But I am in sin. I am addicted to pornography. It happened five years ago when I got my first computer. Having been "sheltered" as they say, in a Christian marriage for twenty years, I would never bring myself to go to an "adult book store". Well needless to say, when I first got my computer it was the first thing I did was to look up porno sites. I wanted to see what all the talk was about. Instantly, this boy was hooked. I got more and more into it, sometimes all night while my dear wife lay sleeping. Soon it was taking up all my time and plenty of my money. When I got sated on it, I started having an affair: porn with skin on it. I lost my beloved wife (whom I am begging to come back to me, but in humiliation she won't). Now I am in therapy for ministers addicted to pornography, and I'm reading a book on it. It is a terrible addiction--as soon as I'm off of it for two weeks, I'm back. It is the "cyclical addiction" of all times--you're off for good, you're back on in a minute. Please talk to this issue as I'm sure MANY, MANY, MANY of your readers can relate. Rev. R. J. M., N. Carolina

R.J., There is probably not much I can tell you that you are not already aware of, however, it does help to get another point of view. Thank you for trusting me to do that for you. If I include some things that seem obvious and redundant, that's Ok, just consider it to be reinforcement, not "rubbing it in". Proverbs 3:33 - "The Lord's curse is on the house of the wicked, but He blesses the home of the righteous." You have experienced the blessings of living in a "righteous" home with your wife. You were happy with the love of your wife and your ministry for our God. Then you introduced this wicked evil into your home, you began to suffer from the Lord's curse. If ever anyone has personally experienced the hand of God in their lives, you are it. When you lived in obedience to His Word, you were blessed. When you went against His Will in your life, His curse allowed Satan to enter your life with the results you are experiencing. Cause & effect. It's not complicated. One of the things that those who work in various church ministries don't discover until it is too late, is that your effectiveness in doing God's Work (& in your personal life) is diminished or blocked when you have this distortion in your life. Too much of each day is wasted in having sexual fantasies that you can't wait to feed some more. So what is the solution? It seems that the easier it is to sink into these moral traps, the harder it is to get out of them. They are inversely proportional. What are you willing to sacrifice to get out of this mess? John 12:1&2 - "Therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God; this is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is good, pleasing, and (the) perfect will of God." Go to the essay titled "Man's Sin Problem" and read again about the war that is going on inside all of us, all the time. You are losing that war and there is no solution in your power that can provide a remedy for you. You are "conforming to this world" by pursuing pornography, and the only solution is to appeal to God for His help. He can provide a solution to your carnal nature that's leading you around by your private parts. Many people think that Pastors and Priests are somehow immune to the temptations of Satan but you (and a lot of Priests) know that is far from the truth. When you are wallowing in your pornography, Satan is licking his chops in glee because he has all but neutralized your effectiveness. That is why many people don't go to church because they think church is about the mistakes and scandals of the people in the church, instead of a place where soul-sick, imperfect sinners go to worship God and heal their broken hearts. The bad example you have set has not only cost you your wife but has (directly or indirectly) damaged the reputation of the Lord's house of worship. God only knows how wide the ripples of your actions will travel. You must sacrifice your carnal nature on the alter of God's love for you. Doesn't it say something in the Bible about "asking, knocking, and seeking"? Ask for Gods help and ask your wife and others who love you to pray for you.

Matthew 5:29 - "If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. For it is better to lose one of the parts of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell." Yes, this is a bit extreme and I am definitely not recommending that you whack off any of your body parts, but, it sure wouldn't hurt to limit Internet access to yourself. That's how you got into this problem and it make sense to cut off the source. That would also cut you off from Karen and I on this web-site but think real hard about where your priorities should lie. One last thing: You know that God is omniscient, omnipotent, and omnipresent. God knows everything, is all powerful, and is everywhere. You also know that God's Spirit, the comforter, is present within you as a Christian. When you sit in front of your computer screen and view with lust the bodies of the thousands of beautiful women presented to you, how could you watch it for even one second when you know that The Almighty God and Father is right there with you and that His sweet spirit within you is being dragged through the mud and filth of that great evil. I can hear Satan's laughter as you willingly descend deeper into his cesspool of misery. Matthew 5:28 - "But I (Jesus) tell you, everyone who looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." A whore monger and a voyeur commit the same sin. They are equally wrong. My prayers are with you.

Congratulations, Bro Graham. Karen is very lucky to have landed a man of God, and you are so lucky to land a refined lady like her. WOW. This is a marriage made in heaven. Question. I think there is something inherently wrong with the notion of "bi-curious". I am sick with self-disgust over this. I am a hetero--not a g-d- homo. But one night I got to drinking with a bunch of guys, way too drunk, and I ended up sleeping with one of them who came on to me. He thought nothing of it, but it definitely "broke the ice" with me, a first for me. I feel really sick about it. In fact I feel so sickened--I can't forget about it. Can you give me any suggestions as to how to get this AWFUL MEMORY off of my mind? I feel like puking. Roger I. J. Virginia.

Roger, there are no quick cures for you. The only way for things to recede in your memory is the passage of time. Of greater concern is the idea that with the passage of time you might think that "it wasn't so bad". That is the lure and the trap. Rationalizing out something you know to be wrong. You know that you are definitely not "one of them". Keep it that way. The actual fact that a man, instead of a woman, could get you aroused to go through the motions of sex is no more significant than a little dog that comes up and starts humping your leg. If it didn't feel good, the dog wouldn't do it. I don't think that you or your leg would feel any excitement from the dog's unwanted attention. Just get on with your life.ntions. Let it pass and get on with your life.

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Hi Brother. I'm going to tell you something that will make you sick probably. I am a little ashamed of it. Last year when I visited my family in Texas, I slept with my brother. He just got out of prison. Will I go to hell because of this? I know incest is very wrong. We got to drinking, and it happened. I am now too embarrassed to even talk to my brother. I feel dirty and soooooo hated by God. Shirley I. J. New MexicO

Shirley, I'm not going to quote you a lot of scriptures from the Bible. You and your brother made a big mistake and you should be more that just "a little ashamed of it". If you didn't get pregnant there are no social or legal consequences. You would be facing an abortion, at the minimum. This is one of those things best left unadvertised to your family and friends. the real consequences are from committing the sin of incest and the damage is from coming under the curse of the law, which applies to all sin. Whether it is incest or shoplifting: "The wages of sin is death". The only remedy possible is provided by God though His Son Jesus. In other e-mails I have gone into great detail on what you should do. Do a little homework and ask, knock, and seek help from our wonderful God. (P.S. Whether or not your e-mail has any factual basis or is just "putting me on", I take all of them seriously because there are those out there, who will read this, that have actually had to cope with this, or similar, problems.) Like Jesus said: "Go and sin no more."

Hi Bros Graham. I am suicidal. I want to end this tragic life of mine. I came from a dysfunctional system then married an abuser. Once that was annulled I sailed through many bad relationships. Now I am 36 and thoroughly sick of life. I don't want to live anymore and I see nothing to look forward to. The only problem is will I go to hell? Mary Ann L, New Orleans

Mary Ann, Jesus said in John 14:6 - " - I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me." If you have a personal relationship with Jesus and have accepted Him into your heart, you will be one of God's dear children. The sin of suicide is just another sin that Jesus died on the cross to pay for us. He took all of our sins; past, present, and future to die with Him on the cross. Salvation is the conscious act of accepting this wonderful free gift from God. You don't have to be alone. God is very real and His Spirit lives within His children. This is not just some hypothetical mystical crap. You have a great big hole in your heart and can't find someone or something to fill it. Fill it with God's love and you will become a whole person. Does God have a plan for your life? If you become one of His children by believing in His Son and the sacrifice He made for you, you will find out what God has in store for you. The feeling of emptiness and futility will go away. One of the definitions for insanity is; for someone to keep doing the same thing over and over again, yet each time expecting a different result. Whatever you're doing isn't working, so try pleasing God and not yourself and see what happens.

Brother Graham, I really appreciate your friendliness in interacting with the Karen Kellock readers. It isn't about diet and fasting--the reason we originally came here, but very informative nonetheless, for after all most of us were Christian. We found that out in the world forum--God is spoken of in all her books, and Jesus. Karen's pages are very forthright and strong, and your approach is more explanatory and both are wonderful interfaces with each other. I have ALWAYS wanted interaction with this website but Karen has disappeared from the internet in the last three years. We need to have interaction, for the times are tough and this theory is COUNTER to all that, reparative of all that. It is not enough to just read the pages. I myself am having heartbreaking problems. My boyfriend was seduced by my mother, and now lives with her. This has torn my heart out, but from what Karen says these strange happenings are common in this era of broken families. I hate my mother now and hate my boyfriend--we were about to get married. This has been a terrible shock. He is ten years older than me, and ten younger than her. How can my mother do this to me? Needless to say, I have been "eating" my heart out and would like to die as I get fatter and more miserable everyday. The two most trusted people in my life, gone--and together. Heather L. K.

Heather, Karen just got burned out from the thousands of e-mails. Many of them were basically repetitive on the same subjects and there was no point in answering those if the subject matter had already been addressed. Yes, each person wants a personal answer to their e-mail, but that's just not possible. There's not enough time in the day to answer everybody. I will be writing more essays about common subjects that reoccur often to address these subjects more thoroughly. In your e-mail, something doesn't track too well. You mention your husband and then say that your boyfriend moved in with your mother? I've written a lot of material about biblical polygamy, but that is always about one man with multiple wives, never one woman with multiple men/husbands. Fair play had nothing to do with it. the whole point of the genetic male/female thing is procreation, having babies, not recreation. In biblical time more babies with more than one wife meant more workers for the flocks and fields and home. That was one of the common roads to wealth in those days. It was very important back then. As to your unhappiness, you must learn to be a more self-contained person, fully in control of your own life. What other people do or don't do shouldn't be the deciding factor in your life. My personal response to situations that become intolerable to me is to remove myself from the source of the problem and to completely ignore the culprits in the future. I have a son I haven't seen or talked to in years. I wish things were different, but I don't miss him. My happiness depends on me and the choices I make in life. When I make a poor choice sometimes, I just move on. It's not "running away", it's disassociation from unpleasantness.

This is RJE here again. I appreciated your online comments, and that you thought enough of me to put me at the top. I have no friends I can trust here. All my friends and family on the outside have dropped me like an old shoe. They even put my dog in the pound. No one cares about me--my name and image has been wiped off the face of the earth. I am blackballed, a non-existent. I am scared to death of being stabbed or strangled every minute. This place is constant noise--worse than a casino, with crazy guys screaming at all times. The gang activity means I MUST only associate with white racists, fully tattooed. I can't befriend Mexicans or blacks or it's crossing gang lines. The only thing I have is my bible. Thank you again for making contact. R J E San Quentin

RJE, thanks for the quick response. I have a lot more I want to share with you. Danger comes in many forms and it is close to us our whole lives. Most of the time we are not even aware of it. How you handle fear is very important. My answer to one of the e-mails described separating your intellectual self from your emotional self when facing danger. You are in the middle of a war where you are at, and you really need to develop strict control of yourself. Also I take a lot of comfort from God's promises: John 10:28-31 - "Don't fear those who kill the body but are not able to kill the soul; rather fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell. Aren't two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them falls to the ground without your Father's consent. But even the hairs of your head have all been counted. Don't be afraid therefore; you are worth more than many sparrows." God knows every single aspect of your life. He watches and knows completely everything about you. You say that you became a Christian, so you know that through your belief in His Son Jesus, you are one of God's precious children whom He loves as His own. RJE, you are part of my family and I do care for you as my Christian brother. In our family we have responsibilities. It is called the "Great Commission" and it comes from Jesus when he said in Matthew 28:19&20. - "Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe everything I have commanded you. And remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age." Does that mean that you have to become a preacher? That's probably not God's plan for you, but it could be. What you should start doing, if you haven't already, is to do your best to not become like those around you whom you detest. Filthy language is normal there. It does not belong on your lips because God's Spirit lives within you and the family you're in is better than that. To learn what Jesus has commanded us to do, you should look for that in His Word, the Bible. Work with the Chaplain. He has a very hard ministry and I'm sure he will help you when he can. Most of all pray to God in your mind all the time. It's not easy to be a Christian, even on the outside. Including God in your mind throughout the whole day will draw you closer to Him and He to you. He is right there beside you at all times. He has made hundreds of promises to you in His Word. Find them and use them. The mystery of faith is to know that God is by you 24 hours a day and yet, when you look around, you can't see Him. The evidence of God's presence is when you ask God for His help in your life and He answers according to His Will and Purposes, you know that He really was there all the time. How He answers your prayers is between You and God. You ask reverently. You don't demand. You can't "horse-trade" with God; "God if you will do this one thing for me I promise to do all kinds of things for You." That doesn't work. God can use you right where you're at. Just ask Him and He will open doors of opportunity for you. When you pray to Him the most important thing to do is: John 15:16 - "You did not choose me but I chose you. I appointed you that you should go out and produce fruit and that your fruit should remain, so that whatever you ask the Father in My name, He will give you." So whenever you pray, ask for things (your needs and concerns), ask for them "in Jesus name" and our God will answer your prayers according to His Will and Purpose. You probably read in another e-mail reply I sent about God's answers - Yes, No, and Wait. If you didn't, look for it. Well that's it for now. May God bless you and watch your back.

'this is a pile of crap. Don't you know that the greatest people in history were gay? The greatest artists, scientists and thinkers were all gay. It is the highest sophistication. I don't give a damn what the bible says. It's all some man talking. Modern interpretations show it isn't wrong. It's all from Paul, a phony in the bible. Besides, gays are much better looking. Stevie I. San Francisco

Stevie, you have a right to your opinion. In this case it's only opinion and not the truth. If it weren't the truth, you wouldn't feel so threatened by it. Also, what good is "looking good" on the outside when you are so unhappy on the inside?

This is just another way of being hateful. You must accept all lifestyles as equal. This is a vast right wing conspiracy and jerry faldwell's.

Some lifestyles lead to happiness and fulfillment. What do you think your life is going to be like when you're over eighty years old with no kids or grandkids to love and take care of you? Will you still be trying to "get it on" with your partner and telling yourself over and over again - "I'm happy, I'm happy, I'm happy. You have my pity, not my hate.

Karen had a very mystical, courageous, poetic and clear way of stating things that was congruent with her theory, of all disease obstruction and all recovery elimination and then all success attraction. It put me in a higher right-brained state, a feeling of eternity. That's what I wish we could have but there seems to be a departure now. Is there any chance of having a public forum again, with the theory there? The theory is extremely simple, romantic, scientific and very relieving. Josh LK

My husband is a physician--a surgeon. He "likes to cut". No one but his family knows what a batterer he is--of me and my four sons. Reverend he is a pure sadist. He is the cruelest person. He is very rich, and I fear his reprisal with doctors, lawyers and institutions lest I comply. Now he's got my sons bought and paid for, dead set against me. They hate me due to my husband. What can be done about this? Ruth IJ. Michigan

Ruth, I am not a "Reverend". I am, to Christians, a brother in Christ. It is my task to comment on things I feel I am qualified to write about. Concerning your husband, you can't do anything without evidence. Start gathering evidence. Pictures of cuts and bruises on you, etc. Keep a diary with times dates and places. Document the names of anyone else in the area to verify the info later if it comes to a court fight. Keep all this stuff secret and make copies of it to keep with a trusted friend. Privately get a mental evaluation from a psychologist to verify that you are in your right mind and a fully capable adult. This will give more clout to the evidence you are accumulating. People like your husband are arrogant and don't believe their victims are capable of anything effective. Be careful and gather the facts. Pray to our God for help and you might be pleasantly surprised.

Hi Bro Graham. I am married, and my husband has "girl-friends", friends who happen to be women. It is really hard for me, since I feel everything he needs can be fulfilled by me, his wife. He should have no need for girl friends. Not only am I jealous, it works havoc on my mind. I know there was an attraction, or they wouldn't be friends--if they are alone together who knows what could happen? I have other married gal friends who say that years later they found out their hubbies and girl friends had slept together. Years later. I really get crazy thinking of him visiting women in their homes. I went on the internet, and I can see I am not the only one who feels this way. In the fifties, this wasn't happening because things were ordered, with men working and women in the home. Nowadays, no more. What do you think about marriage, what it means, and other girl friends of the husband and OTHER modern situations that we wives have to put up with? I have to think if the roles were reversed, would he like men visiting me alone? Mrs. John R., Las Vegas (P.S. some of the girls are showgirls, which make it even worse).

Dear Mrs. John R, if I were in your shoes, I would be scared to death of catching some disease. Las Vegas is a magnet for all of the so-called "social diseases". People come from all over the world to Las Vegas and leave their little "gifts" behind to be spread to others. I don't have any easy cures for you. You might get a copy of the video "A Woman Scorned" and watch it with your husband. It would open up a chance for discussing your problems. You have some tough decisions to make and he needs to know that you are serious and not just bitching and moaning about imagined problems.

I'm a woman and I prefer making love to woman. Women are soft, silent, kind, warm. Men are cold and brutal. Those are the facts and I was born a lesbian and always will be one. If Ellen can be gay, why can't I be? I don't talk to people who are prejudiced against gays. Anne Mary L. NYC

Anne Mary, prejudice is, according to Webster, "a judgment or opinion formed before the facts are known; preconceived idea, favorable or, more usually, unfavorable." I have no personal preconceived bias for or against homosexuals. God's Word clearly states that He (God) disapproves and condemns homosexuals. Who am I to choose your point of view over God's point of view. The "facts" are that you are acting against God's Will. There is no prejudice involved.

Hi Brother Graham. What I'd like to know is, are we winning the fight against homos? I mean, it seems they are gaining ground, esp in California regarding gay "marriage". It seems like a losing fight. But I believe that all of civilization is at stake. What can us ordinary people do? I believe that the explosion of homos all over the world indicates the latter days. Vivian L. I., New Hampshire

Vivian, homosexuals are just another symptom of our times. I don't see them as the "main event". A decline in ethics and morals are surely a prominent indication of the decline of every civilization, most certainly including ours. I truly believe that within five years our country will be under martial law and will never again be like we have it today. Read the essay on "Martial Law". I really won't mind if you think that I am a "kook" on this subject. On the 17th of July Al Gore gave a speech in which he said that "there is a 75% chance of the polar ice caps completely melting within five years (and guess where all that water is going to go?). He sounded like a kook with that apparently wild claim, but as the Vice President from 93 to 2001, he had access to secret inside government information and he spoke with sure knowledge of what is coming. He gave us the time-table: 5 years. Martial law is implemented by the military and military folks don't have a lot of tolerance for the "gay & lesbian" lifestyles. We do, truly, live in interesting times.

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Glad to read your responses, Mr. Graham. My husband and I are very religious people. We like you, love the Lord and the bible. We are Jehovah's Witnesses. Well you can imagine our surprise when we found sex toys in our daughter's room. Then we found pornographic magazines, a vibrator and her dirty diary. I was so thoroughly disgusted I felt like being sick. We confronted her on these things, and she said they are promoted in her school. I made an apt with the school counselor and we both went. They called us sexually repressed bigots, behind the times. They accused us of abusing our own daughter with our restrictions. Every minute the atmosphere became more accusatory, pointing the figure at us. Bishop, I couldn't believe what was happening. What is the school system coming to? Needless to say, we want our daughter to move from our home. What do you think we should do? Mrs. R. I. Johnston

Mrs. Johnston, if she's over eighteen, out she goes. Read my e-mail response that referred to the story of the Prodigal Son (58). A lot of it applies to your problem. It is always nice to get e-mails from members of my Christian family. The "bride of Christ" cuts across all denominational boundaries. To borrow a few words from Mahatma Gandhi: "An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation nor does truth become error because nobody will see it." The school counselor obviously does not share the values of our founding fathers, which you and I believe in. By supporting your daughter's unacceptable actions, the school has destroyed your credibility in your daughter's eyes. It will take years for her to learn different, if ever. Again, tough love does apply here. I wish I could tell you differently.

BG: We were very happily married for years. Then I started to gain weight after my first child--and my husband went cold. This sense of rejection hurt me so much I panicked and started to eat more and more. It is the only way I can get any solace. The more he withdrew, the more I ate. Well now I am 85 pounds overweight and all my husband does is criticize me, hatefully. He calls me fat, old, ugly, lazy, unattractive. Then I eat more and I can't face life without food. Food is now my pill, my addiction to soothe my nerves. Every day when he arrives from work he starts attacking me. He actually marks down what's in the frig before he leaves, then checks to see what I've eaten when he arrives. The more he treats me like a recalcitrant child and his prisoner, as a spy, the more I am becoming a closet binger. Brother Graham please help me--what can I do? Please pray for me. It hurts me so much that the man who was in love with me now treats me like an ugly savage whom he hates. Blanche I.S. New Mexico

Blanche, you are the mother of your husbands children and he owes you respect for that. People aren't like dogs that abusive owners like to kick once in a while. Also, when you got married, if it was a Christian marriage, you took your vows before God, and whatever actual words you used, they were intended to promise each other that you would be good for, and to, each other. Your husbands actions tell me that he is breaking your vows that God witnessed. As far as your overweight problem is concerned it looks to me that if you worked as hard at getting slimmer, like you are secretly working to get heavier, you wouldn't have this problem in the first place. Here are the facts: Before you got married, your husband fell in lust with you and fantasized about what it would be like to be married to you with all the happy things that involves. Most people get a little practice in, before the wedding. You were physically very attractive to him, and he to you. That's just normal birds & bees stuff. So the child or children come along and you start to gain weight. When your husband sees you like that the happy "lust" component of your marriage starts to die. He is physically not attracted to you any more and he resents it. He really wants back what you two had at the beginning of your marriage. To him, it seems like you are busy insuring that that will never happen again and it makes him mad which is why he does stupid things and treats you badly. That does not excuse his actions but you have to understand his point of view. Unfortunately, many men (and women) can't explain themselves very good simply because they don't understand the psychological process themselves. This web-site of Karen's has good, solid information for effective dieting. My Karen is 5' 4" and weighs less that 100lbs. She has more energy and stamina than a lumberjack and I have a hard time keeping up with her. Her methods work. She put me on it and I am loosing weight. Her methods work. Blanche, if your husband were to gain 85 lbs, would you still find him as attractive as when you got married? You would still love him but, would he really turn you on? Tell your husband that if he will back off on the abuse, you "will" lose weight. You must if you want to save your marriage. The answers to your problems are in your control.

This is an interesting page because I like knowing what the other reader's think. My problem is my father beats me on a regular basis. I want to move out (I am 20) but it is too expensive to move. I'm stuck here, and that makes him disrespect me more, and beat me more. I can't hit him back because I am very small and thin, not big like my father and brothers. Incidentally, because of their size, he never attacks my brothers. Teddy LK Ohio

Teddy, do what I did when I was seventeen years old. My father smacked me down once and I fought back as best I could. I weighed 132 lbs at the time and he was a lot larger. He was a railroad switchman and could get pretty rough. After the fight, I asked him to sign the paperwork for letting me, a minor, join the Army. He did and I never looked back. Five years later I came back about his same height and weight, with lots of muscle and confidence and looked him in the eye and smiled. We got along just great after that. I think that men, like you, that don't have a large frame, would be better off joining the Air Force. Their technical schools are excellent, the food is great, and their overseas bases are in some really neat places. It is really a good place to decide what to do with the rest of your life. I envy you your opportunities with this. I tried it for twenty-six years and definitely liked it. It was a good life. The other services are also good but I don't like the idea of long sea-tours in the Navy away from my family, and I wouldn't be too keen about wandering about in Baghdad waiting for an IUD to ruin my day. In Viet Nam I was an Inertial Navigation System technician and served just as effectively as the guys shooting up the jungle. The F4 fighter aircraft that I maintained were the ones that got the good guys in the jungle out of trouble on a daily basis. It wasn't my fault that my electronic test equipment had to be in an air-conditioned building or it wouldn't work. Think about it.

For ten years I have been following this diet theory. I live on nuts, cheese, doughless pizza, red salads, the superfoods and occasionally walker's diet which is an incredibly wonderful fill-in. I have lost nearly 100 pounds in these ten years, and have gone from a lazy slob to a vital, thin and creative life thanks to your wife. I love the whole theory, including solitude. Now I am a Christian due to this influence. I too disagree with gays. I want to thank you all for this. My question is: I can't find a man I can relate to. I believe there is a soul mate for me, but it hasn't happened. Should I fast to bring "him" in?

Dear Vital and Thin, yesterday I answered an e-mail explaining biblical fasting. I don't think that fasting is the place to start for you. The best advice I can give you on finding a soul-mate is to be careful where you look and re-evaluate your criteria. The narrower you set your criteria, the less likely you will find that special someone very soon. On the other hand things like morals, ethics, and personal track records are not things anyone should compromise. I've said before that if you look where a man has come from, you can know where he is likely to go in the future. Liars keep on lying and cheaters will keep on cheating. Above all pray to our God to guide your path. Matthew 7:7 - "Keep asking and it will be given to you. Keep searching and you will find. Keep knocking and the door will be opened to you." Proverbs 16:9 - "A man's heart plans his way, but the Lord determines his steps." As a Christian, these promises apply to you as one of God's beloved children.

Brother I feel so all alone in this world. I have no relation to men, except friends of gay men. I don't know what to do. The only thing left is lesbianism. I am way past a male-female relationship because I am big and fat. Men don't like that--so what else is there but another woman? Do you mean I should be alone instead of having relationship with someone I can love? I am thoroughly confused after reading your other pages, and Karen Kellock's pages. No man will want me unless I take five years off to get into shape and lose weight--it seems insurmountable. please help me, I don't want to be in sin but what else can I do. Sue L. Y. New Jersey

Sue, It looks to me like you have painted yourself into a corner. Your assumption that it would take five years to lose enough weight to look good is wrong. Your idea that maybe a lesbian relationship will somehow be better than being alone is wrong. Alone is always better than being with the wrong person. There's a lot less stress alone. The idea that happiness can only be defined by who you sleep with is wrong. Isn't there anybody that you just like? The idea that all relationships should start with eyeing each other, speculating whether or not they would be satisfactory in bed is just plain distorted. Finding a friend, a partner, a mate for life is not just a "meat-market" decision. How many people have you known that have fallen in lust, called it love, and then decided later that they didn't like each other? If you follow the diet that Karen advocates, with the "Walker diet shakes", your metabolism will change within two weeks and you can't help but lose weight and it won't take forever. You don't have to wait until you lose a lot of weight to make platonic friendships (just friends - no sex). Think of it as good practice for when you have lost a lot of weight. Who do you associate with? If you hang around people who are obsessed with looking good on the outside and excludes the beauty of personality and intelligence, then no wonder you feel inferior to them. Try making friends with mature adults instead of pinheads. You will become like the kind of people you spend a lot of time with. Social pressure shapes the herd. It's your choice to change or not.

Hello Brother. I have spent the last two days in the library reading this page, and it is making real sense. I am in the penitentiary for gang activity involving battery and kidnapping. I was a third party but twenty years here in this stinking, loud, depressing and DANGEROUS place. I am really miserable Brother Graham, because I am scared all the time. I know I did wrong, and in fact God helped me by sending me here because I met the Chaplain and became a Christian. I did that immediately--I called out and he answered. I feel bad for the crimes I was part of, and I am learning to read my bible every day. But I am not doing well here in these awful circumstances. I want to warn everyone--stay away from gangs, because once in you'll never get out. I would be very humbly grateful if you would post this, and reply and I will write you back. I need someone to focus on. R. J. E. San Quentin

Hi R.J. I'm glad you wrote to me. You are one of many thousands that people on the outside need to hear from. The prison system is one of the greatest evils of our country. Crime must be punished and punishment should do two things: The first is that the guilty person must be penalized in a manner appropriate to the crime he/she committed. The second is to cause a change in the behavior of the criminal so that there is no repeat of the crime by that individual in the future. That is the ideal situation and that's not what we have. So, we have two questions: Is prison time an appropriate punishment for all crimes that money can't take care of? Does prison time result in anyone's change of behavior? If so, what are the percentages? Statistics can be very useful and sometimes embarrassing. Statistically, the United States has the largest per capita prison population in the world. That means that all the other countries in the world have fewer prison inmates for every 1000 people of their population. If the U.S. has 15 prisoners for every 1000 citizens in our country, then all other countries would have less than 15 per 1000 citizens. I am deliberately making this very clear. The reason for this is that prisons are a business. It costs X amount of dollars to house an inmate in prison and the state pays Y amount of dollars for this prison service. The difference between X and Y is profit. Also, everyone gets a personal tax deduction when they file taxes. Inmates don't file taxes. I wonder who gets that deduction? Who benefits? The investors who funded the prison construction and, some people think it's only fair that the prison profits should provide an input to the judge's pension funds. You know, the judges who are overstuffing our prisons in the first place. If this weren't true, then why did California Governor Schwarzenegger propose a large release of prisoners in order to cut the state budget? He knows that a large amount of inmates don't belong there and pose very little danger to the public. Sorry if I went on a bit. This is one of my "hot buttons". Do write me again R.J. and I will get into stuff that can help you personally.

I recommend that you do a couple of things. First you should build up confidence in yourself by learning to shoot a gun, use and throw a knife, use an eight inch long hat-pin, get karate lessons, join the Marines (not the Army), or anything else that will convince you that you can take care of yourself. You don't have to become a "butch" to learn to defend yourself. Re-evaluate whether or not you want to live in the neighborhood where this took place. I know finances dictate where we live most of the time but do you have other options? Susan, before you ever learn to trust a man in your life, please learn to trust our God to care for your heart. You are loved and treasured as a precious soul and you, like all of us, really need God's input in your life. You don't have to carry the burden alone. There are support groups all over the place called churches. Pick one that is right for you. You will find some people in those churches that you don't care for, and you will see other things that doesn't agree with you. But your attendance is not about them and their all too human failings, it's about you worshiping God and seeking His help and blessings in your life. Romans 8:22 "We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose." Susan, you need to answer that call.

Hello Brother, I'm about to tell you something very shocking and I think from your kindly and documented answers you will be able to help me. My father murdered my mother. I loved her more than anything. He had a history of beating up on me and her and he was a drinker. Now he is in prison for life. Brother, I cannot forgive him. Because of his drunken actions I am left all alone for life. I am 25 years old now, as this happened three years ago. But my mother was my only friend, and I am basically a loner. I can't forgive and my nightmares are terrible each night. You see, I found her in a pool of blood after being stabbed 35 times. As it turns out he was in a blackout and didn't even recall his crime in the trial hearing. I am grateful to you for reading this. Ralph Kingston, Virginia.

Ralph, In the military, those of us who have spent at least some time on the "pointy end of the stick" rapidly learn to separate our emotional self from our intellectual self. Basic emotions such as fear, surprise, and anger are counterproductive on the battlefield and could get you killed. Talk to some of the guys coming back from Iraq or Afghanistan. If you don't strictly control your actions by intellectually reacting to a hostile situation, you could totally lose it before you even get shot at. Life is a battle. It never was "sweetness and light". You, my friend, are wallowing in an emotional stew over the loss of your mother, and the father you detest. You have two choices; Continue as you have been and the rest of your life will be sour and wasted. You will be allowing the man you detest to ruin your life. Your other option is to let your intellect strictly control your emotions (control, not do away with) until time heals the worst of your hurt. Set goals. Start projects. Do something to better your life. Your mother was the victim. You don't have to be. Have you forgotten that your mother loved you dearly and would have wanted you to become someone she could be proud of, had she lived? Build a life for yourself for your own sake, and for the memory of your mother. Get married, have children, and give them the kind of life that you were robbed of. Be a loving father in memory of your mother. Teach them about Jesus and His love.

Brother Graham. I have just finished reading this page and it's a lot to take in. Well here goes: I am no longer a lesbian but I was for five years. I got involved with a girl who was very violent, in cycles. One time she killed my beloved dog and one time she attempted to poison my cat. I have read that lesbians hurt each other's pets to get back at them. She would also beat me up at times, very controlling and scary. After I managed to get away from her I went on the internet and see the lesbian violence is very common. I am still very leery of people, women or even men. I am happy to be alone but what is the answer--people have no idea how bad all this gay stuff can be. Caroline L.

Caroline, many people think I am a homophobic jerk because of what I write. It really doesn't matter if that is true or not because I am not the source of my personal point of view. I accept and depend on God's Word, the Bible, to lead me to God's truth. I am also not the source of scientific evidence that proves that it is impossible to genetically pass on any genes from male/male or female/female sexual unions because they don't propagate their kind. The whole homosexual movement is built on mis-information, outright lies, propaganda, and a huge pile of B.S. I don't hate them. I'm just not so stupid that I would fall for all of their unadulterated CRAP. As for you, Caroline, I am thrilled that you have escaped from that trap. As with any great trauma in your life, it's probably best to not make any more sudden changes in your personal relationships. You are alone now and that's good for a while. A bit of time out will help you to think things over in your life, and meanwhile start to look around for new opportunities, new friendships. Platonic friendships do work. Before I met Karen, I had several friends that are women who enjoyed my company and I theirs. No sex, just friends. They were at ease with me because they knew that I wouldn't "hit on them". I never lacked social companionship. That is one of the many advantages of any man who knows how to act like a gentleman. So go slow and make friends with both genders who are straight. Also, you don't owe anyone an explanation of your private business or past experiences. Without that info available to them it doesn't have to be an issue or topic of conversation. Take your time and you will be OK.

Hi Bro Graham. My daughter age 31 is a very promiscuous woman, having somehow gotten the idea that it was liberal, or chic, or "in" or popular to be a damn slut. I am very sickened by this behavior and would like to cut her out of my will. I wish to disown her, and give her a symbolic funeral--I feel I must cut out the bad to save the crate of two other siblings and an extended family which is still sane, stable and salvageable.

You say you are not an expert on fasting. Ok. But what do you think of biblical fasting, and do you believe in the KK theory of diet and fasting, which is mini-meals and mini-fasting each day, and restricted diet of fruit, animal fat and no starch? I know this is the church site, but in truth sir this HUGE website has been devoted to diet and fasting for ten years. Since you are now married into the Karen Kellock Clan, I am extremely curious about your feelings about the diet and the LIFE-STYLE of this theory which you most certainly should be aware of by now. This theory is a SCIENTIFIC DISCOVERY which parts company with every single existing theory out there--we can't just divert our gaze to new pages without thinking "what the hell happened"? If you can state your views and we can have a theoretical I will gladly read and apprecaite your other views as well. After all, that's the common denominator--the theory. Newton K. H.

Whenever I call someone they say "what is it, Linda?" as if I am never welcome. I don't feel comfortable in any social situation. I find people terribly mean--heartless and artless--and that's why I love Karen Kellock's site since 2000. She speaks to these issues like the hypersensitive who cannot adapt to the crazy herd. She speaks about the ANA: the recovered and mature anorexic true lady, who is mature, fit and beautiful. The picture she described of the ANA--which I'm sure she is--is extremely attractive and all I want to be: thin, dignified, mature, spiritual, clean and pure, orderly, chaste, silent, kind. I want to be like Karen. So I congratulate you in your marriage to the wonderful true lady of the internet. My question is this: are you pro-ana, by that I mean the mature ana, not the sickly anorexic we hear about? Karen is bone thin--are you appreciative of the mature ana, or do you want her heavier? This has been our debate for ten years, Karen started the notion of the mature ANA, and many PRO-ANA sites followed suit, only to be BANNED FROM THE INTERNET. Karen Kellock is the last bastion, the last understander of our condition of HAVING to be thin, because it is how we are designed. Because of her degrees, and books, and elder maturity, she cannot be banned. For that I love and thank her and am eternally grateful to her. I would like your views on ANA now. Analite L., Nebraska

Diet, fasting and solitude was what this site was all about. Now KK.com has become a church, an arm of the mega-organization. Karen is a Christian, and she hates the promulgation of homosexuality in the public schools. She is trying to innoculate us, the herd, from contamination and temptation. I can now see the relationship, but how unpredictable can anyone get? Karen you don't care what they think--you just do what you think is best and trust the consequences to God, and that's why we all love you: for your pure audacity. I see the patterns in your life for we have communicated for a decade all of our thoughts, feelings and theories. And now you have married Brother Graham--this is the apex of a life of tragedy (extreme downs and some ups but faith the whole way). Your whole life has been leading up to this. You are now going to go into your destiny, what you're been preparing for since a teen. As a person who has known you personally, I congratulate your both and wish you the best. Rick Coloras

B Graham I was kidnapped while in my teens. While in captivity of four people--including one woman, I was raped repeatedly. When I finally was found and recovered, I had to go back to my high school and all the kids blackballed me--as if it was my fault. I dropped out of school just to protect myself. I was then on the streets for five years, just keeping from being killed. I am now living at my cousins small home, as a try out period, and have access to his computer. I listen to the KK music all day long. This has had a tremendous influence on me--it can't help but do that, particularly the "bully" page. I love Karen for she has experienced persecution and blame and lived to tell about it. What I want to ask is: how does one get over the memories? I am extremely terrified now, afraid of pain or getting close to people. This made me feel powerless and with low self-esteem. Kathy I.

Kathy, I just replied to a man whose father murdered his mother, and also a woman who had been raped. What I wrote to them applies to you. If you have the time read through all the recent ones and you will find ideas that will help you.

Rev. Graham: I have a girl friend who cozies up to my husband and I'm really getting nervous about it. He seems to like my "friend" very much and now I'm afraid to leave them alone together. It's really getting bad when you can't even trust your best friend nor husband. He calls me "paranoid" and says I need therapy and perhaps medication. I just know they want to be alone because I know both of them well enough to know. God help me, God help us all there is no more loyalty nor fidelity in this world. I am beginning to check his emails and I notice she sends him cute cards--she didn't send me one. I am going to see if Intellius can scan his cell phone usage. I am really getting angry about this possibility--should I ban her from my household? Jane Ann Kilmsley, New York.

Jane Ann, I'm not a reverend but a retired Air Force Senior Master Sergeant that has been happily studying God's Word, off and on, for most of my life. I also spent over eight years wiring up dirty trick for NCIS in order to catch bad guys. So my advice to you is to buy a couple of small voice activated audio recorders that will record at least an hour or so. Just before you think they will be together in the house, activate them and plant them where they won't be obviously found. These should be solid-state devices that won't go "CLICK" when it reaches the end of the tape. Once positioned and they come in, think of an excuse to leave the house for twenty minutes or so. Don't go near the recorders until they are both gone, even if it's the next day. If you listen to the recorders with either one of them present and nothing suspicious was recorded, you will look like an idiot. That's not good. If they record a juicy "GOTCHA", then you will have to decide what to do then. First - gather the facts. Second - make a decision. You will have the necessary evidence.

Graham I'm married to a son of a bitch who beats me. I hate his guts and want to leave him but can't financially. I'm scared to death of him and he killed my dog. Brother Graham please use just my initials because I want to KILL THIS MAN. I am so miserable being married but have no way to get out, no where to go. I'm thinking of buying a gun and even being in prison would be better than this. He makes me sick--he drinks and picks his nose and farts. I hate him so much. Do you have a job for me in your organization--if you pay the way I'd come there. I live in Virginia but could still find a way. Please, please....please. I am desperately in need of your help. M, Virginia

Dear M in Virginia, rent or buy a DVD or video tape of "The Burning Bed". Put a five gallon can of gasoline by the TV, and watch the movie with him. If he doesn't "get it", then leave him. He's too stupid to waste any more of your life with. I wish I could help you personally but Karen is the jealous type. Good Luck.

Hi Mr. Graham. You seem like a nice understanding man. This website has been my home for years, and I love the music. I am glad Dr. Kellock married you and I congratulate you both. My problem is I work for a man who is always making passes. I can't afford to sue him or report him. I need and love this job. I DREAD--I MEAN DREAD--being alone with him, even for a minute. He is a married man and a snob. He feels superior and makes remarks that are very down putting to me. He hurts me by the things he says and does. What can I do? Lillian Sue Robley, Texas.

Lillian Sue, this is a hard one. Out of line but not overtly over the line is something you can't prove. I don't have enough facts to recommend anything definite for you but I will try anyway. This might not be possible in your specific situation but, try to become a friend of his whole family. What activities does his wife enjoy that you could share with her if you made the effort. If not you personally then maybe someone in your family closer to his wife's age. If you could manage that kind of connection with his wife or children, or others of his family members, then you should start name-dropping when he comes around and casually mention the connection or activity with his family members. If he knows that you have easy access to the ears of his family, he will feel threatened if he says or does anything improper toward you. This could be a lot more involved than how I am describing this here, but I think you have the basic idea of how to go about this now. I wish I could be of more help.

DG can you kindly tell me about the new arm of the United Nations, which is Muslum. It is the final chink in the armor, against Christians. I am not sure I fully understand it. R.L. CA

There is only one Muslim flap in the United Nations Organization that I know of: Muslim nations are pressing for a UN anti-defamation law that would make it a crime for Christians to promote "freedom of religion". They have been attempting to pass a law; "which states that all rights are subject to sharia law, and makes sharia law the only source of reference for human rights." There are 57 Muslim nations that support this effort, and there are a lot of others out there who would love to poke a stick in our eye. To give you an idea of where that would go, if enacted, the Christian Bible contains the word "love" about 300 times. The word love is not in the Koran. What kind of "human rights" would you expect from those who are taught to hate us?

Mr. Graham thanks so much for your BIBLICAL REFERENCES: this is a great addition to the artistic "Queen of Lean". My question is this: I am married to a LIAR. She lies about everything big or small. I know this comes from her abusive background, in which she would be severely punished for telling the truth, but it makes havoc on our marriage. Please advise sir and keep up the good work. David K. Jr.

John 8:44 "You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father's desire. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of liars." In truth there is honor and integrity. Without honor, integrity, and mutual respect, love dies. It seems to me that your wife is but obeying her master, the prince of lies. For you to join her and her master, neither of you could ever trust each other in anything. What sane person could live like that. David, I'm not trying to drive you away from your wife but a chronic liar destroys any healthy relationship. I'm giving you ammunition to fight against the prince of liar's daughter that is your wife. Proverbs 8:7 "My mouth speaks what is true, for my lips detest wickedness." - 12:19 - "Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment." - 13:5 - "The righteous hate what is false, but the wicked bring shame and disgrace." - 16:6 - "Through love and faithfulness sin is atoned for; through the fear of the Lord a man avoids evil." According to Dr. Karen, pathological liars get that way because at some time in their past they were very successful at lying (It worked). You must make it very clear to her that it will not work with you. Each and every time you catch her in a lie, make a big issue of it. It there were rewards for her in the past for lying, then there must be penalties for lying in the here and now. I know she is your wife and not your child but the alternative is for you to separate yourself from that which you will not tolerate. Good luck.

Kathy, I was an American Legion Chaplain for a couple of years and had a lot to do with Episcopalians and their local co-Priests - husband and wife. Their basic point of view was that the Bible is OK to consult on the topic of Salvation but they were better qualified to handle "social issues". The local Methodist Pastor agreed with them. He came up with a new concept for me which he called "Protestantism". Evidently this is a means of uniting liberals on "social issues" across denominational boundaries. They deny any theological relevance in social issues. I must disagree with that. God's Word says in the book of Hebrews - "For the Word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God's sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account." When you sit through any church service, regardless of denomination, and you don't hear the name of Jesus mentioned, then He or our Father/God is probably not there.

Lucille, God's word says in Matthew 5:27 & 28: "You have heard that it was said; Do not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." It is my belief that this applies equally to men and women. Whether on-line or in the flesh, it is wrong and condemned by God. If you believe that your husband is dreaming about his on-line beauties while making love to you, he is using you as his surrogate slut. That is not how a man should treat his covenant wife. One of your options is found in the book of Deuteronomy 24:1 - "If a man marries a woman that is displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her - writes her a certificate of dirorce - and sends her from his house - " In our culture "what's good for the goose is good for the gander" in every legal sense. I am not recommending or endorsing divorce because in the book of Malachi 2:16 it says: "I hate divorce says the Lord God of Israel, - ". But even God's Laws do not create impossibilities. There is always a remedy. The choices are for your husband to change his ways in a totally convincing manner to you, or because he acts in an "indecent" manner toward you, you are justified in getting a divorce from him. A decent woman with just normal self-esteem cannot continue to live under the conditions you now have to put up with. Get him to read my essay about Romans 7 so he can try to understand himself and the war within that he must fight and win. May God's Will be done in your lives.

The sign of the times is that you raise your kids and teach them right from wrong. Their kids are close to your heart and you encourage them to share your values also, Your great-grandkids are total strangers and you have very little in common with them. That is a sad, but true thing. The less you teach them about Christian ethics and values and show them where it came from in God's Word, the more alien they will seem to you. Pray for them and do the best you can to set them a good example. This is an imperfect world and we just have to play the hand we are dealt.

Ricky, If your wife works, it is reasonable for her to ask that you share some of the housework. If she doesn't work or maybe works part-time, she should at least do most of the work inside the home. Outside the house is work that you are better able to do for obvious reasons. Most people take on the traits and habits of those they often associate with. When you're in bad company, you become like them. When you are in good company, you improve or at least don't get worse. Women's magazines, TV soap operas, and such things are based on the Hollywood mentality. You read daily about scandals, divorces, homosexuals, the party lives of those with more money than brains, and many other things that is a result of literally wallowing in wrongness. Strip bars are where people go to commit the biblical version of adultery - If it's going through your mind to do it, it's just as bad as actually doing it. Sin is sin. Are her girlfriends all happily married or are they just the usual feminist broken personalities looking to drag your wife down to their level? Misery likes company. In the house, you might try just cleaning up only for yourself. Put your stuff away and don't leave any of your things for her to clean up. If necessary, buy some nukem meals and cook just for yourself. If there's a mess, let it be her mess. I really don't see a happy ending in all of this. Get her to read my essay on "The Problems with Women". It might help you too. Do what you can to change her perception of you. Be loving even if you have to grit your teeth in the process. Buy her some flowers but nothing expensive (Karen loves flowers). It's Ok to let her know that you think she is making a mistake but you still love and care for her. The less confrontational you are the better the chance she will have a change of heart. Good luck partner.

Hello Mr. Graham. My husband and I have been married three years, very happy at first. Now with his new promotion he is being "hit on" by office girls, or so he says. Whichever way it is happening I am VERY THREATENED. He calls me "jealous and possessive" and I can't help it I am going crazy. I am suspicious and feel he is lying. What can I do? I just feel what I feel. He says I am ruining our marriage with my suspicious nature but what should I do--just lie about my feelings? I feel women are very intuitive and psychic, and I KNOW something is going on. He is cooler in bed, less responsive. I feel he wants young girls. When we are out I see him eyeing other women and it makes me angry inside, resentful and I feel ugly. PLEASE HELP ME. Ruth Melango, London.

Ruth, get a copy of the DVD "A Woman Scorned" (Questar) and watch it with your husband. I am not implying that either of you much resemble the "subjects" Mr. and Mrs. Broderick, but there are close circumstances in this movie/documentary that you are experiencing. It would be a very good "icebreaker" for a serious discussion with your husband. If he can calm your fears about him then all is well and good. If not, you might insist on entering into a "post-nuptial" contract with him where you both agree to an even and fair division of property, funds, children, and future income to support you and whatever children come just in case your suspicions prove to be true. If there are no grounds for your suspicions and he knows that he is and always was true/blue to you, then he should have no objections to the post-nuptial agreement. If he strenuously objects, then there might be a problem with him and the office girls. Good Luck.

Nice to have straight talk, Brother Graham. I love Karen's brazen articles but this is where sanity hits the road. I'm even beginning to question gays, after this made sense to me. I can see the absurdity of the whole gay movement and it makes me mad how a few rich fags are changing our whole world and even the constitution itself. Can we say that what happens in people's bedrooms IS OUR BUSINESS? This gay thing is DIRTY yet they make it seem CLEAN. Kids are coming into gayness in droves, having orgies after school. I thank you for clarifying Karen's strong stance with biblical references, and for being the more laid back member of your pack. George Richards, L.A.